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Divorce and tantrums
| Wed, 01-30-2008 - 2:11pm |
Well, dh and I are still in the process....nothing final yet.
| Wed, 01-30-2008 - 2:11pm |
Well, dh and I are still in the process....nothing final yet.
I'm sorry you are having a hard time getting Nathan adjusted to his new situation.
No, his dad hasn't been there alot for him.
Michelle,
This is a trick situation. The obvious thing to do is to talk to your STBX, but I know he has never really had a clue about Nathan's needs. I don;t suppose you have a good enough relation with the girlfriend that you can talk to her?
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Unfortunately, my MIL is very aware of her son's behavior....but chooses to not say anything.
sounds familiar. at dad's son cannot leave his room in the morning without dad's permission, his toys and bathroom supplies must be put away at the end of the visit because they get in dad's way when son is not there. son can't lounge in his boxers watching tv. no snacks in the tv room.
all son's meltdowns were with me. xh denies any issues with son.
OK I have an idea. It may not be a good one, but here you go:
Hows about talking to STBX about ONE rule? Choose just one and say "you know, I notice Nathan has been out-of-sorts after he comes back from your place and he has a problem with___. Would it be such a big deal to change this one little thing for your kids?" -Better to make it "kids" than "kid", you know? You may want to get Tyler to help you out here, too.
Maybe that will work and the camel's nose will be in the tent.
Then in a few weeks, you can pick another rule, and so on...
-Paula
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