Question - Good Days and Bad Days?

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Registered: 01-20-2008
Question - Good Days and Bad Days?
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 4:43pm

Hi everyone! Thanks to everyone who responded to my post a few weeks ago.


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Registered: 06-25-2003
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 6:03pm

Yes,


It is very typical for a high-functioning child with special needs to appear "fine" in some setting or circumstances and very ":special needs" in other. I have certainly gone through that with both of myu kids 0and continue to do so to the present day.


There is something you mentioned that struck me as not typical Aspie -and please note that I am no expert. Your DD does not yet know her

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:47am
My aspie is the same way. He goes through such great periods that we really doubt the diagnosis and then wham he goes in the other direction. I'm not talking week to week either. He will go for several weeks in a really great mood, great behavior a real pleasure to be around perfectly ***normal*** and then it will turn around again. There is no telling what will derail him. The latest culprit was partial quotients. Yes. That's right. Division. He could not understand why he had to learn this method when the traditional method was easier for him. The last month has been awful. I'm a firm believer in pushing for whatever services you can get and as early as you can get them. If it turns out down the road that she didn't need them, that's fine. There is a lot of maturing to be done in the next few years but follow your gut on this one.
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Registered: 01-07-2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 8:05am

I know you are anxious, but the only thing that is really going help with that is the evaluation, so hang in there!


From my perspective as a mother of an aspie and 2 NTs, it is a very common to have hours, days, weeks even, where everything seems 'normal' - I used to think he'd 'grown out' of whatever the problem was, sometimes - but as they get older you realise that it may be that they are developing and learning better coping strategies, but they aren't going to 'grow out' of it. One of the reasons it can take so long to get a proper evaluation and diagnosis (although that can be frustrating to us as parents) is that there is such a wide range of issues and behaviours, and contexts, that need examining. For us, we got the diagnosis after several home and school visits, and at least three half-day sessions with pyschiatrists, psychologists and CPNs, where did they a whole range of different types of tests. On some he came back completely 'NT', on others he was off the scale, and it was only by combining them all that they could come up with a meaningful assessment - and even that, the psychiatrist told us, was based more on the detailed history (taken over several days!), reports from the school and observations rather than the actual test scores.


so it is very common for Aspies to look 'normal' a lot of the time, which explains in part why it can take a long time to get a proper diagnosis. It can also very common for NT's to occassionally look 'off' or to show lots of 'red flag' behaviour - at one point we had DS2 booked in for several cognitive and physical development checks because our health visitor picked up lots of stuff that was on the 'edge' of normal development. And turned out to be nothing - he just didn't fancy smiling, or holding his head up, or listening to things, or focussing, or whatever it was he was meant to be doing that day...!! :-) I know a lot of parents who have been through a lot of unnecessary anxiety and testing because their kids

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