I need to Vent

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Registered: 11-12-2006
I need to Vent
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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 7:28pm

I have been having a rough time lately. My Dh has told me that is his leaving for 8 months or more for work. Well I'm not happy with this because I'm doing all that work with trying to get the help for Nathan and now he wasn't to leave and have me do all by myself. As for that it feels that I have been doing it all by myself. My DH works from 6pm to about 4am. He comes home and all he wants to do is sleep (I understand that he works and needs some sleep but this is all the time). And when he is not sleeping than he is on the computer and getting mad at me or Nathan or something else. DH wants me to come over the summer to be with him and I told him no I can't because I'm going to get Nathan involved with Special Needs Camps. Nathan is going to have a hard time with my DH gone and that is going to make it harder on me. I don't have any help at all the only help that I do get help is my hubby when he "feels like it". Nathan and I both sick. Nathan is worst than me and when DH got home this morning I let him sleep until about 10am and than I wanted to sleep because I was up half the night with Nathan. I just well that my marriage is fall apart and it all because of us having a Special Needs child. I now that is not right to say and I know that Nathan can't help himself but I just don't know what to do anymore.

Mindy

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 12:07am

Mindy,


I am sorry you are going through this right now. Please try to find real-life some help and support locally.

-Paula

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 10:20am

(((Mindy))), I'm sorry that you are going through this.

                                

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 3:20pm

It is hard on any marriage when a child has special needs.


It can be depressing, overwhelming, Its makes even the best of us want to sometimes just curl up into a tight little ball and just well ignore the rest of the world.


It also makes us forget we are a team with our spouses to the point where sometimes we even ignore the other partner.


Support groups as the others suggested is a good start. But another would be if it can happen is marriage counseling. Preferable with someone who understands families with special needs children. Another thing you might have your husband do is one get a complete mental and physical check up

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Registered: 05-16-2006
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 5:24pm

Mindy I am so sorry to hear you issues. Marriage is hard---add a kid with "issues" and it just doubles. I too have yearned for sleep and help and not always got it. I agree, this a