Okay, you guys tell me

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Okay, you guys tell me
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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 11:08pm

Did you ever have one of those days that it was better off never waking up? My day started out that was at 2:30am this morning when DH called me accidently and hasn't ended yet.


Victor's OT e-mailed me today all upset because Victor told her "I know Pokemon aren't really there, but I really see them." She wants Victor to be seen by the school psychologist. Victor doesn't want to go because he's afraid that the psychologist will call him psycho. I think he doesn't want to go because he's afraid of medicine. Victor's afraid of taking tylenol for a headache because doctors could never find a correct diagnosis for him.


Personally, I think he "sees" Pokemon because of stressors at school and don't see a problem with this, but did tell them that if they felt it was something necessary and Victor was comfortable with it, he could talk to the psychologist about it. Once I reassured Victor about the fact that a psychologist couldn't prescribe medicine, he was a bit calmer about going to see him.


This is my concern tho. If this is how he deals with stressful situations, why take that away from him? Or have I just become so adjusted to his personal ways that it doesn't bother me that he "sees" Pokemon. He doesn't see them all the time. He sees them when he's bored, when he's tired, or when he's been stressed out. Tonight some Pokemon was running along side of the truck. Well, during Tae Kwon Do tonight, sensei wasn't very nice. It was Victor's 3rd lesson and Sensei told Vic that he'd been there long enough he should do his stances right. Well, when his 2nd lesson was spent practicing kicking in a corner because Sensei let the other kids spar, I think Vic is doing well.


That is my other question. Victor and Bryanna are both in Tae Kwon Do. The Sensei has a class of 25 students, with 7 new ones... everyone ranging from white belt ( no previous time) all the way up to black belt in one class. It concerns me that the Sensei is concentrating so hard on the black belt and red belt students that Bryanna and Vic get pushed to the side ( as well as the other kids). Those of you with kids in martial arts of some sort, are classes structured beginners and intermediates separate or are they together? 25 kids is a lot of kids in this class and on sparring days it can go up to 30. The price is good ( Military pays for it as long as husband is deployed) but I worry that their education is being compromised because of it. What do you think?


Thanks for any and all opinions ladies. It's been a truly horrible day so I'm off to bed. Good night.


Alexis

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 12:50am

I usually lurk, but can help answer this.

My 10 year old is a black belt. She's in her own class. I'm 39 and a black belt, and I'm in my own class. (My class is a bit different though and we do have a few people who are lower belts. But like I said, it's rare and a different case.) Little Dragons/Champions are 4-6 years old and are in their own class. All other kids (age 7 and up) are split by belt level (not necessarily age).

All classes should be split not only by age group but by belt color/level, unless it's a special circumstance.

My advice is to pull sensei aside and ask if all classes are like this or if they are placed in the same class for convenience to you (I'm not sure if you're saying Victor and Bryanna are different belt levels from each other, too).

If he can't accommodate your needs, I'm sure there are other dojangs that can. It is actually harmful if the lower belts do not have their own instruction. (In his defense, he may be prepping the higher belts for testing right now, but they should NOT be in the same class as lower belts. They should be worked with in a separate part of the dojang with a separate instructor/instructors completely.)

Take some time for you. I'm sorry your day was so stressful. ((HUGS))




Edited 2/12/2008 12:53 am ET by chowderheadmom


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