to give in or to not
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to give in or to not
| Sun, 02-24-2008 - 9:04pm |
when a child had issues like ours how do u handle certain situations ??
like today, time to brush teeth, rylee has two toothbrushes she said she wanted "yellow" so daddy gets yellow puts toothpaste on it, then she screams "blue blue", so he said alright u can have the blue toothbrush, he gets toothpaste on it, goes to hand it to her then she screams" no yellow yellow" at this point he was very fustrated but did what she wanted..
should we do what she wants or should we have made her stick with her choice ?? her anxiety pretty much runs this house, but i cant tell if giving in makes things better or worse...

You may have already tried this and if so I apologize for repeating it. I had a similar problem like this from my NT kid Bryanna. Every time you asked Bree anything, her answer was no, and then she'd get mad that we didn't read her mind. One thing I discovered was we could never spring a decision on her. We couldn't say "Bryanna, do you want to go to the park?" as we were headed out the door. If we asked her first thing in the morning, after breakfast, then her answer would be yes. Maybe you could try something similar. Give Rylee the choice of yellow or baby blue but put it on a chart where she can see that she will use the baby blue tooth brush today. You could also do this for clothing choices or snack options. Instead of asking "Do you want carrots or celery today?" Have it set up the night before so she sees that at snack time she will have carrots today.
alexis, that sounds like a great idea, kinda like a wuick a simple social story to help her with her decision making!!
thanks so much!!
I think that advice is right on and I can't tell you how much this sounds like my ds (10 / PDD-NOS).