feeding

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Registered: 01-13-2008
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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 10:52am

just wondered if anyone else with toddlers/preschoolers, are still have to do the majortiy of feeding that child.. my daughter is just fine with feeding herself when its finger foods, but when a spoon or fork is involved she wants me to do it.. I know she can do it ive seen her do it, but she'll do it once and then refuses to do it anymore and says "mommy do it" or some times she doesnt even try and just pushes my hand toward the utinsel .. any advice ????


thanks Amy!

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Registered: 09-10-2004
In reply to: hodgemomma
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 12:27pm
Sorry, no advice...just wanted to let you know we're in the same boat.
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In reply to: hodgemomma
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 1:02pm
hey thanks!! it is good to know im not alone cant really talk about this with other friends they would all say im probably not being firm enough! but like your son Rylee would rather be all done with eatting! and at her energy level i need her to eat all i can get in her mouth!!! haha

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In reply to: hodgemomma
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 1:48pm
We were in this boat, but I am happy to say right around the time he turned 3, actually just before he started using a spoon almost all the time. He didn't so much have the problem of wanting me to do it, but he prefered to use his hands. On occasion he still does.


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Registered: 06-25-2003
In reply to: hodgemomma
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 5:07pm

It's probably a fine motor and motor planning thing. It is just easier to eat with the hands.

Peter had horrible fine motor and motor planning skills and he used to eat everything with his hands. He was so persnickity and skinny that I just let it go. I am a big believer in picking my battles. I would rather the food get *into* him, no matter if he ate rice with his fingers (and he did!).

He got better as he got older. A lot older, in his case (like 6 or 7). But he got better.

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Registered: 11-13-2003
In reply to: hodgemomma
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 12:11am

My son just used his hands.

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In reply to: hodgemomma
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 6:42am

Dear Amy,


I am in a similar boat. Except my three year old has two reasons for avoiding utensils-lower motor skills combined with sensory seeking. If I had to pull him out of moon sand for a meal, he'd really rather touch his spaghetti than nothing at all.


My older guy (now 6) has motor planning and low tone issues, but I didn't even know that when he was 2. He was very much the same way, PLUS he didn't care for food. I fed him more than others his age because I wanted him to eat. Later, I realized that the activity must have been exhasting for him. He always used utensils rather than fingers, however, because he hated touching food more than he hated eating it.


My younger guy has motor planning and low-tone issues that are not as severe as his brother, and that were addressed earlier and with more skill, since he had experienced parents.


I have learned to work on the big muscles all the time. They really need their big muscles to be strong before their littler fine-motor muscles can do their jobs. I wheel-barrow walk, encourage my boys to push and move heavy things, and leave an easel out all the time with chalk, crayons, etc. I have my 3 year old write with bath crayons on the wall, which is also really good big muscle exercise. I have the boys log

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Registered: 01-13-2008
In reply to: hodgemomma
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 9:44am

thanks everyone for your responses!!!


that bilibo toy looks FANTASTIC, i know it has nothing to do with feeding but my daughter has almost outgrown her sit&spin zebra and ive definitly been in the market fo another safe way for her to spin, so i think i will definitly be purchasing one of these!! :)

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