Okay, puberty has come, I don't like it
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| Sat, 04-05-2008 - 1:12am |
Okay, as most of you know, Victor is 11.5. Two weeks ago, Victor saw the school psychologist because he told his OT that he was seeing pokemon for real. Well after talking the the psychologist, he's agreed with me that Victor seeing the pokemon are a defense mechanism. Well yesterday was a nightmare day. It was raining all day. It was raining so badly that I figured I should pick Bryanna up from the bus stop and not make her walk home. A light rain never hurt anyone but a severe thunderstorm worried the heck out of me. So I call the middle school and tell them that I need to get the message to Victor right away because he's autistic and needs to know what's going on. I said "Please let Victor know that if I am not waiting outside for him right after deployment club, I will be there within 5 min." I said it was very important that he receive this message exactly like that. YIKES! Well the message didn't go to Vic, it went to the school nurse and the message said "Tell Victor his mom will be late today." So the nurse calls me and leaves me a very nasty message on my machine. Well of course I realize that something got crossed in the wires and recall the school. I talk with everyone and thought I got it all squared away.
So Victor got elected president of deployment club for next Thursday. It was so exciting for him because the president gets to choose the snacks for that day. He chose apples and strawberry milk. Well no one wanted apples and strawberry milk, so the nurse told Victor to pick something else. This started a meltdown. So they go to the gym and Victor goes and hides in his corner. Well, the kids decided that they wanted to play basketball yesterday and kept running Victor over. So he had a very bad day. Well, if he had been left alone, he could have gotten under control, but NOOO. The school nurse had to nag him about the snack choices and fussing at him about staying with the group. Finally, he tells the nurse that maybe he should go kill himself if he's that much trouble. So I am standing there for 15 min and we're talking about what might have caused his bad day. During this entire 15 min never once does she mention that he said he should go kill himself. Only when Victor comes back to us with his gear does she say "Remember to talk to your mom about that ugly stuff we talked about." He said he didn't remember and she said "You know, the thoughts of suicide." WHAT? I've been standing there for 15 min and you can't tell me BEFORE then. Needless to say the school psychologist and the resourse teacher and I are all working to help Victor decide to not be part of deployment club. This woman OBVIOUSLY doesn't know how to handle kids, much less an ASD one, even tho I've given her the tools to use.
Okay, so I get him home and he tells me he said it because the nurse kept telling him what he was doing wrong and wouldn't shut up. I told him that wasn't a good thing to say ever just to get people to leave you alone and we worked on proper things to say. I did e-mail the school psychologist and told him what happened and he agreed that Victor used it to get the nurse to back off but he still wants to see him once a week to make sure that we're not underreacting to this situation.
I know we only have 7 weeks of school left but I am seriously ready for a break from dealing with morons. I don't know if I can handle puberty tho. This whole thing has really got me freaked out. Thanks for listening to me.
Alexis

Mollie
Sounds more like an idiot middle school staff person than puberty. Hopefully without someone like that in the picture he would be able to use the tools he has more efficiently. As a matter of fact it sounds like he tried and she was in idiot.
From your heading I thought maybe you had hit a phase we just hit with Mike (12). Dad discovered this week on the computer that Mike has been "curious". No really bad sites but it seems he is doing searches on some various body parts. AAAAGHHHHHH. But that is a whole different story, lol.
Kick the nurse for me ok?
Renee
You're a patiemt woman.
omg! what a stupid woman! I don't think the deployment club is a good idea. Poor kid, I'd be miserable after that as well. And sounds to me like he was using everything he had to get her off his back, he was coping pretty well considering the circumstances. I'm glad the psychologist is not taking it lightly and that you've got him/her on your side!
Betsy
I apologize Renee by not continuing my post. By the time I was done giving the precursor to the topic I was exhausted. By the title I just meant that the emotional outbursts have come full force. A month ago, this situation could have been handled and he'd have known the words to say go away. Now he just tells me "I don't know why Mom but I feel SO much." Victor has hit Mike's curiosity stage. His new thing is telling his sister to not ever get a boyfriend so that he won't get her 'intopregnanted' (impregnated) " It's been a battle to let him know that a relationship is not about sex. This is battle worth fighting though because it messes with both my kids views on relationships. Victor's also felt the need to tell me when certain appendages grow, shrink or "flatten" in his words. I worry because he definitely has the puberty feelings but he's still very much 6-8 years old in his head. To top all of this off, anytime you mention that he does ANYTHING like his dad, Victor goes into hysterics. He's decided that it's Dad he needs to rebel against and poor dad, now that he's in a base that will leave him semi-solid in his kids lives, he just wants to spend time with them. June and July are going to be interesting months around here. Again, I'm sorry to everyone that I didn't complete my post last night.
OMG, that nurse!! I can't imagine how you kept your cool, I'd have flipped.