How do you balance?

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Registered: 09-29-2003
How do you balance?
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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 9:34pm

I have a 10 year old Aspie daughter, and an 8 year old who's.....not! (I've seen you guys use the term "NT"---does that mean non-autistic?)


 


Mich

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 10:58pm

NT = NeuroTypical

Fortunately my 13yo AS dd generally gets good grades, but when the school passes out awards, I'd be a lot more thrilled if dd were getting awards for trying her best in PE, which she's horrid at, than awards for her good grades in other subjects that she hardly puts any effort into. I'm glad she's at least getting grades that make her feel proud, but I want her to feel good about the areas where she puts in so much effort even if her skills/grades don't reflect it.

For the first time ever, my 13yo dd did worse than 11yo NT ds on the last quarter's report cards. That was a blow for dd. She's always been the brains, and ds has been the brawn, but now ds is catching up academically.

So far I'm just making sure dd knows that her EFFORT is important, and I point out that her grade is not reflective of the amount of time/effort she puts into her work. Since we haven't regularly had to confront the level of contrast in our home between siblings like you have in yours, I'm not sure what else would be helpful. I hope someone else gives better ideas.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 11:31am

My AS dd REALLY struggles in school.


 


Mich

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Registered: 12-19-2004
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 4:43pm

I am in the same spot right now trying to find the balance between my three kids.


My oldest is 11yo

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