Advice needed on bullying/teasing
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| Wed, 04-16-2008 - 7:32am |
How do you teach your Aspies to deal with teasing and bullying? Euan cannot *bear* teasing, and cannot tell the difference between easy-going banter and threatening bullying. I just had a session with the holiday club playleader trying to sort out a near full-blown incident whereby someone called him 'wierd' and he tried to take them out with a pool cue...
Thing is, to other kids, he *is* wierd and so this is *always* going to be a problem, and I haven't yet found a way to help him deal with it. If I got picked on at school I'd make sure I had a snappy, funny comeback, and some friends around, and so it usually never happened again. That isn't so easy for Euan - although he's bright and funny, he can't do instant comebacks in a way that other kids 'get'. Obviously he can't keep taking people out with pool cues, but I don't want him to constantly be a victim either. How can I help him?
Kirsty, mum to Euan (9, Asperger's) Rohan (5, NT) and Maeve (2, NT)

I don't know how to advise you on this, because Peter is snappy comeback boy a lot of the time. You'd think this would be a good thing, but he has no clue what is an appropriate comeback, or when to keep his mouth shut (the latter trait he definitely inherited from his mother...).
I remember having to rescue him and his friend D from some angry teenagers once. The teens had said something, to which Peter had responded something about their girlfriends being "hot" and he and D were going to steal them (Or something. it was vague and there were no girls present). Alls I knew about it was this: I looked up to see Peter was running like the wind, laughing gleefully, while poor overweight D was running for his life several yards behind, with two angry teens gaining steadily on him...
Uh yi yi...
(((((hugs))))) Kirsty. You are not alone.
-Paula
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