potty training issue

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Registered: 04-28-2008
potty training issue
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Mon, 04-28-2008 - 4:39pm
I have a 3 1/2 year old who is having issues with potty training.

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Registered: 09-27-2007
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 5:13pm
I was going to ask this question today...wow glad you did.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 7:13pm

Well, there isn't really a different approach as much as our kids often don't mature as quickly as neuro-typical kids....pdd means pervasive developmental delay and often times potty training is one of those delayed areas.


At 3 1/2 your son may not be ready.

                                

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Registered: 02-20-2001
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 8:27pm
I have to agree that he just may not be ready yet.

 


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Tue, 04-29-2008 - 7:26am

my son (10) was not trained til late. he was almost 7 when he stayed dry during the nite. he will only poop in our toilet under certain conditions. xh taught son to stand to pee so son would not sit on the toilet. thus it took longer for son to sit to poop. he used to hide under the table.

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Registered: 04-28-2008
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 10:42am

Thank you so much everyone.

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Tue, 04-29-2008 - 10:53am

Well as Cian will be 5 in June and is only now peeing in the toilet on request (will not initiate it on his own) and has pooed in the toilet all of twice in his whole life , (once at home on request, and once in Ireland.) The interesting about the latter is he was in the bath and I guess decided he'd rather not poop in his bath, lol. I look at that though as a positive sign; it means not all hope is lost.

Cian will stay dry at school in underwear and holds the poo for me, so I suspect even in Kindy next year it'll be a similar situation. Liam wasn't totally potty ready until almost 7. I have given up on forcing the issue as Cian has proven time and again when he's ready he'll make teh developmental jump, kwim?

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Tue, 04-29-2008 - 3:50pm

Brayden was only a couple months shy of turning 4 when we were able to say goodbye diapers. He was not ready and did not seem to recognize or understand his body cues before then. Now at that point I had no clue about his sensory problems or spectrum disorder possibilities, all I knew is that he qualified for EIS at the school and I needed him potty trained to participate. I sought some advice and did as I was told.


We got rid of the diapers, he helped box them up, so we could give them to a new baby that needed them more than he did since he was a big boy. He helped pick out big boy underwear (with cars of course) and I bought a bunch of matchbox cars

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Registered: 02-17-2002
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 11:09pm

Boy can I understand how you feel. Most people do think 3.5 is old to not be potty trained or at least getting there. But some kids take longer. A lot longer. My DS just turned 5 a couple months ago and just the past 2 weeks I've started to feel hopeful that I won't be sending him to college in diapers. We tried everything - big boy undies with Cars on them, sticker charts, Hot Wheels and Cars (movie) cars, suckers, candy. You name it, we tried it.

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 5:05am
It's funny to follow the social trends involving potty training. For a while, the push was on to train them early. I think parents were actually training themselves to "catch" the child and put them on the toilet when they regularly had a BM. In the 90's when my kids were babies, T. Berry Brazelton was all the rage and urged parents to just relax and wait for the child to be ready. Every kids is different and it says nothing about the child or the parent if they learn later rather than sooner. When they are ready they'll do it. Easier on us, Easier on them. (Of course he was referring to NT kids. Kids on the spectrum are something else again.) Now the pendulum has swung back to early potty training. With my aspie, I didn't even try to train him before he was 3 1/2. Being a visual learner I bought a couple of Potty Time videos and he picked it up very quickly. If I had tried any sooner it would have been a failure. Your son doesn't sound unusual to me. Boys tend to hold their BM's more than girls. I would continue with what your doing and don't feel pressured by the school deadline. He's still so young.
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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 9:09am

I remember those days so well, and we had a boy who just was not interested in potty training at 3 and change. Some of his friends were doing it, but mostly not. The preschool was very supportive. He just didn't want to try even, and rewards didn't work, bribes, praise, nothing. One week we sent him to school in underpants and he just messed in them, but still refused to sit on the potty. We bought the tapes, he watched and liked them. Once he told me that he thought he would do it when he was 6!!! Then he did it, all at once, dry through the night, all on his own, just before he turned 5.

Good luck. There are children who don't learn til many years later, and it is so stressful on the parents! I just remember that my son thought diapers were just fine, thank you, good system lol.

Sara

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