Update and airing the laundry.
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|Mon, 08-17-2009 - 12:18am|
Well, I haven't been on here in awhile. I've been pretty busy I guess. Looking back, I'm not sure what I've been so busy doing.
Well, I last saw Al on Sunday. He helped me decide what to cook my sponsor for dinner. Then he started being very flaky on text messaging. I didn't talk to him for a few days, and he was being flaky and not responding, and then he responded: "My phone has been dead, I'll talk to you tomorrow." on Tuesday.
He texted the next day at like 10:45pm (ignoring my previous happy text I had sent him earlier) asking me if I wanted to come over and watch a show with him that we both like. I replied that I was in a meeting. I was really annoyed by his behavior and mad and didn't want to see him. So, I talked to my sponsor after the meeting. I just told her that I had no idea if he liked me or not because he is so hard to read, and I wanted to know if he was just seeing me until he moved because he felt obligated to or because he wanted to. She told me I needed clarity, and that I should tell him that. I knew I needed clarity, but I was too scared to ask. But I did.
So, I texted him as a response to his invite that I needed clarity! I told him I needed to know if he liked me or if he was only seeing me until he left because he felt obligated to because he thought I might drink if he didn't. Well, he responded that he did like me, but that he was leaving in a few weeks. And then he repeated the initial invite to come over. It was too late by then because I had to wake up early for work, so I told him that. I also told him that I wasn't going to text him anymore and that the ball was in his court. I haven't heard from him since. Bob told me that he quit his job the next day and left town and he hasn't seen him since (they're roommates). He wasn't going to quit for another few weeks. He said he exploded on the manager at work. Al did tell Bob via text to tell me congratulations on my 30 days, which Bob and a girl he is kind of seeing (who I'm becoming friends with) showed up for to see me get my chip. I was kind of upset that Al didn't come, but I was really happy that Bob and this girl came to support me. I guess when Al gets back from his hiatus, he'll just move early.
Anyway, I feel a lot better about the whole situation. I'm sad and I miss Al, but I don't feel all torn up about it. I got a feeling from Bob that Al really liked me and was trying to save himself more heartache when he left. Bob said that Al doesn't usually get close to girls and doesn't really date (which surprised me because he's very attractive). I am left feeling that yes, we both genuinely liked each other, but he's on his career path and didn't want to get hurt. He has a big heart. I can tell.
Anyway, Bob came over last night and we talked about him and his girl he's dating and about everything with Al. I feel like things are going to get better. I got my 30 day chip on Friday. My ticker on here is messed up. I am really happy that I have close friends like Bob and his girl friend, and my sponsor, and some of the new people I'm meeting in AA. I'm happy to be back at work and I'm happy to know that I will eventually meet a great guy when the time is right. Al helped me through the first few weeks of sobriety and showed me that I can have a sober dating relationship, that I can meet men in person (rather than off the internet or at bars drunk), and that I can handle things without drinking.