December DYK

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 8:40am

Hmm...not sure if anyone's even around here anymore to even read this, but here goes.

Found out last night that SIL is indeed preggersFrown and they (and my mom) have known all along.  There were 3 sacs, but only one is viable which is why her number have been all over the place crazy.  It's too early to know if it's a boy or a girl (January would be about the time to find out), but last time they found out and wouldn't tell anyone so I assume they will do that again.  She is due June 7th.  We are all hoping like crazy that they get one doozy of a boy, that combines all the worst features of Bro and Josh and Jesse and multiplies it - since they have been incredibly judgemental in my raising of my boys.  (SIL and Bro don't get how different boys and girls are as LO).

They only told her parents last weekend at Thanksgiving (which is why we couldn't know until now - that makes no sense to me since I don't talk to her family and I'm not FB friends with them, but whatever).  Her parents are NOT happy at all, and gave SIL and Bro an earful about how badly they are raising their daughter (wow, so I'm not the only one who's questioning their parenting skills!).  I can't wait to see this what happens when this baby comes along, their daughter is going to come unglued!

They also got to see another (quite imperfect) side of their daughter last week.  They didn't have to just drop her at day care and run like usual.  So they got to hang around and peed through the windows to see how see behaves when they are not around.  When she's around our family she's usually quiet, shy, and clingy and takes foreven to warm up to my parents (completely ignores the rest of us).  But at day care she immediately climbed upt o the top of the climbing structure in their room and started bossing and pushing everyone around and knocking kids down, etc.  Boy were Bro & SIL shocked (although I'm not sure why - the day care has been telling them for 2 years what she is like, they just don't listen).  I don't know how many people telling them these things all the time it's going to take for them to wake up and get their acts together.

Sorry to ramble on about that, I just had to share it with somebody.


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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 2:34pm

I'm here! Between IV not letting me log in, lots of FB drama (our July board group), and being busy at work, I've been slacking lol.  Wow, so SIL really is preggo. Blah, I'm sorry. Poor kid. They obviously already can't handle the one they have.

Kira's been a huge PITB lately. Constantly defying us, saying "no, don't want to!" and just plain not doing what she's told. I don't know if it's because she's looking for attention or if she'd be doing it anyway thanks to being a normal 3yo.

DH is being a douche. Last weekend we got in a huge fight because he tried to start demanding sex 10 min before he had to leave for work and I wouldn't give in, and now he's trying to hint that he may go elsewhere if I'm never interested :-P   Jacka$$.

How did all the drum stuff go for Josh???

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 4:17pm
Sorry about all the drama going on for you right now. I just didn't want to put any mention of my previous post on FB since SIL is one of my "friends" (I have her posts blocked from my view most of the time because all she ever does is post in spanish or try to push her Avon crap) Sounds like Kira is being a typical 3yo. The tyrannical threes are far worse than the terrible twos! They have learned a little independence and think they can do anything and make up their own minds. Take a firm but gentle approach and it will eventually pass. Unfortunately for us Jesse is doing the same things and driving DH nuts. But Dh makes the mistake of stooping to Jesse's level (practically having tantrums himself) and therefore Jesse wins. I just have to keep picking up the pieces and reminding Jesse of the good that he does and redirecting him away from the bad behaviors. Like 10 minutes is enough time to get a gal in the mood. And because demanding it works oh, so well. I have the opposite problem, DH is never interested when I want it. Josh has to go back for one more weekend audition camp, Dec 15-16. If he shows enough improvement in technique and desire he might make it. He actually did better at his first audition which was apparently for the main corp not the junior corp like we thought. He would have made it into that corp, but since that would require him to leave school in May (school ends in late June around here) he can't do that corp. The junior corp (Cadets 2) said he had to work on some technique items that he was doing incorrectly. They also said that if he really wants it bad enough there might be other positions open - like in the pit or playing a different percussion instrument. He just wants snare though and feels he really can't play those other instruments - although he is open to doing cymbals. So we'll see. He does have the option of joining another corp from around here that his drum line instructor has connections with - but he has decided he doesn't want to do that corp because they are not very good.

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Wed, 12-05-2012 - 7:29pm

I'm about to throw my work computer out the window.

And there better be some Xmas decorations ready to be put up when I get home tonight, or someone may get a DIY vasectomy (did I tell you about that? about how he's changing his mind about getting a vasectomy? f-ing men!)

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Thu, 12-06-2012 - 8:23am

I say go for the DIY vasectomy, lol.  Sorry about the work computer being a pain - I'm about to toss a few here too!  I had a teacher totally kill a machine yesterday.  She had the nerve to ask me who could have done this to her computer.  Uh - you did honey!  You're the only one who has had access to that machine for the last three years, and your room is always locked when you're not there - so who else could have possibly done it? Grr.  I won't even get into the whole mess of a situation is going on with my tech lab right now. (all my computers were stolen during the big storm we had - and they are not getting replaced!)

Josh made center snare/section leader for his school's indoor/winter drumline!  We knew he was going to get it cause they kept having meetings and checking to make sure that the rehearsal schedules would work specifically with Josh's schedule.  I think they are even writing the show around the things that Josh is really good at to kind of showcase him a bit.  Now if he could just wow the instructors at his 3rd and final Cadets 2 audition on the 15th & 16th.  (He did get a personal email from the head instructor making sure that he could attend the camp that weekend, seeing how things were going, and stating that he was looking forward to hearing Josh play again!)

Jenna had her 18 month check up yesterday.  She was 22.5 pounds and 32 inches(standing), but they couldn't give her the vacinations because she was running a fever (101.9).  At first the doctor questioned why we didn't know she had a fever, but then she felt her and said, "hmm, she doesn't seem warm at all."  So they took her temp again with a different thermometer and she was still 101.9.  If it weren't for her being a little more cuddly than usual, I wouldn't have known she was under the weather.  I made DH keep her home today, showed him how to take her temp under the arm, and prepared the first dose of tylenol.  DH kept saying, well the doctor takes the temperature in the butt.  Umm...yes, she does!  But she has disposable plastic covers and a rectal thermometer.  We have an oral thermometer that everyone in the house uses and NO covers, so it is not going to be used rectally thank you very much! (what is it with our idiot men?)

So were there decorations to put up when you got home?  Josh put up and decorated our tree all by himself the day after Thanksgiving - other wise we weren't going to have one again this year.


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Fri, 12-07-2012 - 12:07pm

Grrrrrr IV keeps telling me I'm not authorized to post comments and crap like that :-P

Yay for Josh!!!!

Poor Jenna. Kira was like that one time too. She had pinkeye, and when Josh took her to the doc we found out she also had a double ear infection! She showed absolutely no signs. If it weren't for the pinkeye we would never have known!

Well the decorations weren't up, but he did at least get the tub down off the shelf so I could get to the stuff. I don't know if we'll get around to doing the tree or not. But I did put up the wreath and the stockings, got out a few other little decorations and the kitchen stuff (mugs, dish towels, etc), and the movies and CDs.  Tomorrow my parents and I are taking the kids to Cabela's to see Santa. That's what we do every year (their pics are free and you're also allowed to take your own!)

I've pretty much given up hope of DH actually getting a V, so yesterday I called the OB office that I used when I was pg with Kira and scheduled a consultation to get Essure. But they don't have any openings until Jan, so there's no hope of getting anythign done by the end of the year (since we actually have our deductible met). I have to call and reschedule though because the day I scheduled is also Lexi's next checkup, and with dentist appts and stuff I have something going on every week in Jan that I will have to take time off work for. So I probably won't get in until Feb.

Are you guys done having kids??

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Fri, 12-07-2012 - 3:20pm

Well, IV just told me I'm not autorized either.  I don't know why it won't keep me logged in.

Yes, we are done having kids - unless God performs a major miracle.  I had my tubes tied during the c-section with Jenna.  I don't think my body (or stress level) could handle any more kids.

We don't do pictures with Santa - there are no good free ones around and I don't have the patience to stand in line for hours just to have my kids meltdown or freak out at a poorly costumed mall santa.  When Josh was little, my dad was a Santa.  He even played Santa at Josh's daycare - Josh knew it was him and he wouldn't go near him!  Besides, Jesse informed us last night, "Santa's not real!"

So DH allowed Jenna to sleep practically all day yesterday!  I made him wak her for some dinner and tylenol, but then he put her back to bed at her regular bedtime.  Well, when I got home from practice and got into bed after taking my cough medicine with codeine, guess who woke up and wanted to play all night.  And would DH get up to be with her so I could sleep since I worked all day and had to work today too - NO! Grr!


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Tue, 12-11-2012 - 7:23pm

Does he have any brain cells at all?
DH let Lexi have a late nap yesterday but it's ok because she wasn't feeling very well and both girls ended up staying up later than usual anyway because we put up our tree (finally!).  Kira loved it. She even got to help put the star on top!

Tonight is her Chrismas concert for preschool. I'm so excited, it will be so cute!

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Thu, 12-13-2012 - 12:52pm

The concert was pretty cute. It went about as well as can be expected with a bunch of 3-5 year olds, and Lexi behaved. Kira started picking her nose toward the end of her songs LOL.

So this morning I laid Lexi down on her boppy on the couch like I usually do while I pump, and she pulled herself completely up to a sitting position and just sat there! Yay I have a sitter!!!!

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Thu, 12-13-2012 - 5:04pm

Yay for getting the tree up and for Kira's concert going well - even with the nose picking(waiting for you to post that video on FB).  You would be surprised how many kids I see picking their noses all day long every day here.  If I'm teaching technology, I make them go wash their hands before going on the computer.  They always look at me like, "but my hands are clean."

Yay for Lexi sitting up on her own!

My mom had knee replacement surgery on Tuesday, and I was stuck in a 2 day training session for a new student information system that we are going to be switching over to for next year.  Jenna's EI teacher cancelled on us on Saturday - 2 minutes before she was supposed to arrive!  I was not happy about that.  I mean, can't she call the night before so we can actually sleep in for a change. (the sessions are 8am on Saturday and Jenna has to be fed, dressed and alert for them which means getting up between 6:30 and 7am).

My mom finally told me why SIL never held my niece when she was a baby (causing her to have attachment issues and only wanting to really be with Bro).  SIL is dominican with a darker (but not black) complexion and my brother used to be a blue eyed blond (now he's completely gray) with a fair complexion.  She thought that her daughter would come out dark like her, instead she has light brown hair and light brown eyes and a complexion between what Bro and SIL have.  Keep in mind that SIL is the darkest one in her family (and she's not even really all that dark - more like a really deep tan), so I don't know why she would think her baby should be "dark."  Even black babies are born with really light skin, so why was she soo shocked that she all but rejected the poor kid for soo long?  Wonder if she'll do that to the one she's expecting now? geez! 

I know I had a little bit of a tough time accepting Jenna when she was first born because I thought she'd look more like Jesse, but it didn't take me but a day or so to adjust.  I certainly didn't expect her to have black hair since DH was a blond and I'm a redhead, but everyone said it would fall out and come in blond - it didn't but it is lighter.

Alright, time to pack up and go home.  Gotta get haircuts for the kids and maybe go see mom tonight (before she kills me for not visiting her).


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Thu, 12-13-2012 - 7:36pm

That's really weird about SIL, though nobody ever claimed she was very smart. I can't imagine not wanting to hold my new baby!  I'm not sure how much either of the girls will end up looking like me. Kira definitely doesn't have my hair color. She does have my nose and face shape though. And everyone is always saying how much Lexi looks like Josh :-P

I didn't get video of the actual nose-picking. I did post 2 short videos, but the camera battery was running low.

That was sucky of the therapist to cancel at the last minute! If it had been you that cancelled you'd probably get charged extra or something, but then they can do it? Grrrrr.

How are both of your parents doing?

My sister was supposed to have a dating ultrasound today. I haven't heard anything about it yet though. I'm really hoping they move her due date, which was originally set at the day after Lexi's bday! Not only do I not want them to have to share a birthday, I'd prefer that they not be forced to share birthday parties for their whole lives either. My sister and I are 4 days apart, so we always had to share parties growing up, and even now we have to share birthday family dinners :-P

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