December DYK

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December DYK
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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 8:40am

Hmm...not sure if anyone's even around here anymore to even read this, but here goes.

Found out last night that SIL is indeed preggersFrown and they (and my mom) have known all along.  There were 3 sacs, but only one is viable which is why her number have been all over the place crazy.  It's too early to know if it's a boy or a girl (January would be about the time to find out), but last time they found out and wouldn't tell anyone so I assume they will do that again.  She is due June 7th.  We are all hoping like crazy that they get one doozy of a boy, that combines all the worst features of Bro and Josh and Jesse and multiplies it - since they have been incredibly judgemental in my raising of my boys.  (SIL and Bro don't get how different boys and girls are as LO).

They only told her parents last weekend at Thanksgiving (which is why we couldn't know until now - that makes no sense to me since I don't talk to her family and I'm not FB friends with them, but whatever).  Her parents are NOT happy at all, and gave SIL and Bro an earful about how badly they are raising their daughter (wow, so I'm not the only one who's questioning their parenting skills!).  I can't wait to see this what happens when this baby comes along, their daughter is going to come unglued!

They also got to see another (quite imperfect) side of their daughter last week.  They didn't have to just drop her at day care and run like usual.  So they got to hang around and peed through the windows to see how see behaves when they are not around.  When she's around our family she's usually quiet, shy, and clingy and takes foreven to warm up to my parents (completely ignores the rest of us).  But at day care she immediately climbed upt o the top of the climbing structure in their room and started bossing and pushing everyone around and knocking kids down, etc.  Boy were Bro & SIL shocked (although I'm not sure why - the day care has been telling them for 2 years what she is like, they just don't listen).  I don't know how many people telling them these things all the time it's going to take for them to wake up and get their acts together.

Sorry to ramble on about that, I just had to share it with somebody.


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Fri, 12-14-2012 - 8:48am

My camera/phone died on me last week when I tried recording Josh's band at the state championships at Metlife Stadium.  It said no battery, but then after the game I finally get it turned back on, and it had like 43% battery!?!?

Mom is supposedly doing well after her surgery, but I haven't been able to get over to see her.  She really wants me to bring the kids with me, but they either aren't feeling well or are asleep when I get home.  Dad needs to have his right knee replaced whenever mom is finally recovered enough from her surgery.  His cancer is making another fight to return.  We aren't sure if it's because of all the other health scares he's put us through this year, or if he's not following the medicine schedule closely enough, or if something else they've put him on is interfering.

Because they've both been so bad off this year, and mom has had too much pain and no energy to shop, we're not even really doing Christmas this year.  Only the little kids and Josh are getting some stuff - not like the big Christmas celebrations we're used to.

I hope your sister's due date is far enough away from Lexi's birthday that they don't have to share parties.  My SIL is due 4 days after Jenna's birthday so I hope she either goes much later of earlier so her kid's birthday doesn't overshadow Jenna's birthdays in the future.

I actually had to share my birthday with my brother several times when we were growing up - even though the dates are 3 1/2 months apart.  Because mine was late June, school was already out and everyone was gone for vacations.  But his was a month after school started and a better time for parties with classmates.  And he always got presents on my birthday because my mom didn't think he'd understand.  She wants me to do the same thing with Jesse and Jenna so they don't feel left out on another person's birthday.  I'm like, "look, it's not their day and they'll have to learn to deal with it."  I never got gifts on my brothers birthday so why should he have gotten gifts on mine just because he was younger - I never understood that growing up.


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Fri, 12-14-2012 - 3:34pm

What the.....? Well that's just dumb on all accounts! Why couldn't you have celebrated your birthday earlier instead of having to wait and share with your brother? And why would anybody get presents for someone else's birthday? That's just totally odd

I'm sorry your parents, especially your dad, are having so many health issues :-(

And that totally sucks about your camera! The battery on my camera died during my baby shower for Kira. That sucked. Now it's completely dead (as in, won't charge at all) and I'm still waiting to get a new one. Hopefully for Xmas. I've been sharing Josh's in the mean time. He doesn't really use it anyway except to take pictures of stuff to list on ebay.

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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 8:52am

So Josh made it into the Cadets 2 Drum Corp!  There were only 2 snare drum spots open so he had to settle for cymbals instead.  If he had turned that down they could use that as a reason to reject him when he tries out next year.  But this gets him in and who knows what could happen - maybe one of the snare players might drop out or get injured, and this almost insures him of a spot in the corp for next year.  Also the cymbal players tend to go right near the snare players so he cans still get to see what is being done on the snares.

Jenna is sick again - sounds like she's got what I've been battling for over 5 weeks now.  She cried in her sleep last night and when I checked on her she was tugging her ears.

I'm at school right now preparing for what will start out as a very awkward day, because of tension running really high over the shootings in Connecticut.  My principal sent us an email last night forbidding us to even discuss the matter here at school, and if the kids bring it up we are to cut them off and redirect the conversations.  My morning duties put me as one of the 1st people that would be taken out if such an attack occured here, and my school wouls probably be one of 3 (out of 11) in our district where such and event has a higher likelyhood of happening.  I also worry now that school security procedures have been widely published and future gunmen would now know where to find hiding children and staff members.  

I also worry (for Josh's sake) over the connection they are trying to make between mental illness and Asperger's, and talking like everyone that has it should be locked up.  Not all Aspies have violent tendencies, and those that do tend to have been repeated victims of extreme bullying when they were younger.  We also found with Josh that some of his meds for his Asperger's actually made him more agressive, so more medication is not necesarrily the answer either.  Josh took himself off all of his meds and is much more calm and even tempered now - but I don't dare tell his therapist about this now.


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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 12:42pm

Yay Josh! Poor Jenna :-(   Lexi's been fighting off a lot of colds too. This morning she was SO congested and snotty and one eye was glued shut. It sucks to not be able to really do anything to help them feel better.

You're not allowed to say anything about the shooting? Why not? All the schools I've heard of, including the one where I used to work, plan on setting time aside today to talk to the students, answer questions, etc.  Personally I've tried to stay as far away from the news and everything as possible. Pretty much all of my info has been whever people say/post on FB. I did catch a few min of the President's speech last night. I can't believe how many people want to turn EVERYTHING into a political battle!  Both schools that I grew up in are very open campuses, so if somebody wanted to I'm sure it would have been very easy for something like this to happen. My elementary/middle school (which is also where I worked) had a lockdown once before I started working there because a staff member heard gun shots out past the fields. Turns out it was a stupid hunter. Don't know what he thought he was hunting in that particular area :-P

I have seen several arguments on FB about the whole mental illness thing. On one hand, def no where near everyone with a mental illness is going to have violent tendencies. You can't generalize like that. On the other hand, people are saying "but mental illness is so stagmatized and people aren't getting the help they need. If fewer people fell through the cracks, maybe it wouldn't have gotten this bad and he could have been helped instead."  My degree is in psychology, but I just don't know where to stand on that.  I hope this whole thing doesn't negatively effect Josh at all.

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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 10:03pm
ACK! Sorry I've been such a loser board friend. I've been working a lot of hours, the kids have been sick, holiday crap is kicking my ass...yada yada yada. Did you know that there are only three 2009 iVillage parenting groups? I discovered that when I went to look up the link to get back here...my computer died and I lost my favorites. Should we combine with the general 2009 board and have our own DYK thread in there? Just a thought..although there might be more lurking activity...there also may be more activity on the board overall!

Michelle

Mom to Addison (8) & Gabriel (5)

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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 10:32pm
Addison has been really sick too! Fever and cold since Wednesday. I sent her to school today after she missed last Thurs/Fri but picked her up early. I think we're going to keep her home again tomorrow.

Michelle

Mom to Addison (8) & Gabriel (5)

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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 10:39pm
Mmmm...IDK. I am not telling Addison and I hope she doesn't hear it from anybody else. I think six years old is too young to be exposed to that kind of evil. Older kids...maybe. They internalize enough stuff and I don't want to burden her with that.

Michelle

Mom to Addison (8) & Gabriel (5)

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In reply to: tmdm2007
Tue, 12-18-2012 - 10:44am

Hi Michelle, 

Sorry you've been so busy and dealing with illnesses too!  I agree about not discussing the event with the young students, but my principal has forbidden the adults from talking about it AT ALL - not even privately with one another!  And if a student brings it up we are to cut them off immediately and change the topic.

IDK about joining the other 2009 groups, I'll have to check them out and see what's happening over there.  I do know a lot of boards have died off significantly with the latest changes.  The girls on my 2011 group are ready to quit and only check in once a week at the most.  I think I have three regulars left and many of the other 2011 boards died off long before the switch because they were also more dramatically implacted by the switch to Lithium just as they were getting off the ground as ECs.


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Tue, 12-18-2012 - 1:00pm

Hi Michelle!!!

Well boo. Last night we were watching Pawn Stars and our TV just went out! Josh said the back was really hot and maybe it just eeded to cool down, but it wouldn't turn on this morning either :-(   Looks like we might be getting another TV...  and on top of that, we got a little snow last night so the school district is on a 2-hour delay, so Kira's preschool is cancelled. So she's home all day and what was the first thing out of her mouth this morning? "Can I watch my shows?" Yep, even before "I'm hungry!" which is normally how the mornings start. At least she'll hopefully get to go play in the snow a little, if Lexi lays down for a nap.

I know it was brought up before whethert we want to join in w/ the other playgroup page. I'd rather we just stay in our own cozy little group :-)

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Wed, 12-19-2012 - 4:11pm
Haha - we have a special thermometer just for the butt for when they have a scary fever. I almost used it on A last Friday (yes she is 6yo but was so sick I think she would have let me) but the battery died on it!

Michelle

Mom to Addison (8) & Gabriel (5)