December DYK

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 8:40am

Hmm...not sure if anyone's even around here anymore to even read this, but here goes.

Found out last night that SIL is indeed preggersFrown and they (and my mom) have known all along.  There were 3 sacs, but only one is viable which is why her number have been all over the place crazy.  It's too early to know if it's a boy or a girl (January would be about the time to find out), but last time they found out and wouldn't tell anyone so I assume they will do that again.  She is due June 7th.  We are all hoping like crazy that they get one doozy of a boy, that combines all the worst features of Bro and Josh and Jesse and multiplies it - since they have been incredibly judgemental in my raising of my boys.  (SIL and Bro don't get how different boys and girls are as LO).

They only told her parents last weekend at Thanksgiving (which is why we couldn't know until now - that makes no sense to me since I don't talk to her family and I'm not FB friends with them, but whatever).  Her parents are NOT happy at all, and gave SIL and Bro an earful about how badly they are raising their daughter (wow, so I'm not the only one who's questioning their parenting skills!).  I can't wait to see this what happens when this baby comes along, their daughter is going to come unglued!

They also got to see another (quite imperfect) side of their daughter last week.  They didn't have to just drop her at day care and run like usual.  So they got to hang around and peed through the windows to see how see behaves when they are not around.  When she's around our family she's usually quiet, shy, and clingy and takes foreven to warm up to my parents (completely ignores the rest of us).  But at day care she immediately climbed upt o the top of the climbing structure in their room and started bossing and pushing everyone around and knocking kids down, etc.  Boy were Bro & SIL shocked (although I'm not sure why - the day care has been telling them for 2 years what she is like, they just don't listen).  I don't know how many people telling them these things all the time it's going to take for them to wake up and get their acts together.

Sorry to ramble on about that, I just had to share it with somebody.


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In reply to: tmdm2007
Sat, 12-29-2012 - 11:44am
Hi! Michelle, the smoking thing I think is normal. I dont smoke, so I wont ever understand it, but its what I observe. We lost my FIL to lung cancer in early October and then DHs grandpa (not lung cancer) 3 weeks later. Neither my DH or MIL have quit. DH says he cant with all the stress. DH is also a pot smoker. I keep getting on him to quit as he started very young (so at the age of 28 already has over 10 yrs of smoking under his belt) and I really dont want to have to go down the same road MIL is on right now because he wont quit. *sigh*
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In reply to: tmdm2007
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 11:45pm
Bah - my MIL started smoking after my FIL was diagnosed with cancer (makes sense, since he has lung cancer...right? He didn't smoke cigs but was a habitual pot smoker.) Well I smoked several of her cigs when I was there this past weekend. My asthma is so bad now!! Stupid, I know.

Michelle

Mom to Addison (7) & Gabriel (4)

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In reply to: tmdm2007
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 11:41pm
Sorry you're missing the funeral, Donna. Why did DH refuse? Sounds like something my DH would pull but at least he would have had the excuse of work or school. (Not that there is any excuse that is good enough...just wondering what new BS these guys try to pull out of their asses, LOL.)

Michelle

Mom to Addison (7) & Gabriel (4)

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In reply to: tmdm2007
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 11:05pm
No New Years plans here...I'm not so delusional to even TRY to find a babysitter. I'm thinking about getting some nice steaks from Costco. You are so lucky to have your parents nearby, Shawna! G's parents live a few hours from here and previously would take the kids a few times a year, but they traveled a lot last year and now FIL has cancer and probably won't be with us a whole lot longer... so those opportunities are over. When my parents visit we sneak out for a movie but there is nothing better than getting an overnight date where you can sleep in as late as you want the next morning!!!

Michelle

Mom to Addison (7) & Gabriel (4)

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In reply to: tmdm2007
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 8:52am

Shawna, I'm jealous of your long weekends w/o the kids.  Although, I do enjoy being home with my kids and not having the pressure of having to go anywhere.

PopPops funeral ceremony is today, but we will not be there:-(  I couldn't find any available flights or trains with round trips that would work for me (I have to return to work on the 2nd or lose pay, and unfortunately that's when everyone else seems to need to get back as well).  I did consider driving down and taking a day or two to also visit Disney or SeaWorld, but DH wouldn't go with me.  I didn't want to leave the little ones home with him (I knew he'd just dump them on my parents - who can't really handle them right now), and I think the trip would be more than they could handle (24 hours of driving each way).  I don't even think I could handle all the driving either.  I called my Aunt and she completely understood.

Christmas was OK.  I'm actually kind of glad that is was a very scaled back celebration this year - the kids still got plenty of stuff.  DH is mad that I put together all the big toys and am letting the kids play with them - the living room is a wreck (but is was a wreck before that because he never cleans up or helps them clean up).

I've gotten to a new level af disgust with Bro and SIL - if that's even possible.  It's bad enough that their worlds revolve around their daughters "schedule", but now they are demanding it of the rest of the families at celebrations - and rather rudely too!  Christmas morning we were supposed to be at mom's house no earlier than 9 for breakfast and laid back opening of gifts.  But Sunday evening Bro informs them that his inlaws are coming at noon for lunch and presents at their house so we need to be done at mom's house by then.  Excuse me, we made these plans weeks ago!  So then we had to be there before 8 which was tough since I had to perform at the Christmas eve service the night before.  When we got there Bro, SIL and "the Queen B" had claimed the best seats and pushed my stuff into a corner where I couldn't get to and help my little ones.  Then as we were still eating they demanded that we hurry up and start opening gifts before his precious daughter had a melt down!  Umm, my kids were waiting patiently why couldn't his?  Then when it was her turn she wouldn't even open anything!  And at one point he screamed at DH to "Control your children, will you!" because Jesse was playing with a cardboard tube in the middle of the room and bro felt he was going to hurt someone with it.

I'm picking up signs that perhaps their daughter may have a blood sugar issue and maybe that's why they are so rigid with her schedule and eating habits.  On Sunday at my aunts house Bro kept saying (every few hours)that she was crashing, and when SIL suggested that he give her some water he told her, "no, she needs something with calories and sugar in it!"  Umm, she looked fine to me, but was pushing back her hair and rubbing her forhead.  She also never eats what everyone else is eating or when anyone else is eating.  She only eats (and is spoon fed, not self fed)those gerber baby yogurts or the little gerber tub meals.  They claim it's a consistency issue, that she doesn't like the consistency of other foods - but they've never even tried those other foods with her that I can see, they don't even offer then to her.  But, if it's a blood sugar issue it would make sense that those foods are portion controlled and have know calorie/sugar contents.  And SIL did have a bad case of gestational diabetes that required several injections of insulin daily - most GD can be controlled with diet if I remember correctly.

Also as they were leaving my aunts on Sunday, they told everyone to "take whatever cookies you wnat now cause we're taking them back home."  Umm...why would you bring them in disposable containers if you weren't going to leave them there, and since when do you bring a dessert to a party and then demand the left overs?  I thought it was very rude and tacky.  

DH actually had to step in a control "the Queen B" while the kids were playing with a new toy that evening - she was jumping on everyone and hurting them.  I heard him yelling at the kids to stop, but then realized that Jenna was next to me and Jesse was playing somewhere else in the room and not the one being yelled at.  She was jumping on my cousin's 17 month old daughter!  And when the kids opened presents that afternoon, she just tore all her gifts open at once!  In our family we take turns, going around the room opening one gift at a time each.  And only the kids were getting gifts, so it's not like it would take a long time to be her next turn anyway.

GRR.  they make me so mad.


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Thu, 12-27-2012 - 2:43pm

Wow, that IS quite the temp difference!

Did you guys have a good Christmas?

Donna, did you get down to Florida for your grandpa's funeral?

My parents kept the girls for a couple days after Christmas, so last night I went to my first actual Zumba class. It was exhausting but fun. then tonight after work I'm getting a massage and a wax (part of a package Josh got me for Christmas) and then meeting my parents to pick up the girls. I plan on going to the movies on Sunday to see "Les Miserables" :-)   It's nice having 2 4-day weekends in a row, even though last weekend seemed to go by faster than a regular weekend!

Any plans for New Year's? We'll be doing what we do pretty much every year... sitting in front of the TV. Not that we're big partiers/drinkers, but it sucks that we never do anything. Not even really before we had kids. And he doesn't even have to work on New Year's Eve this year! :-(

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In reply to: tmdm2007
Thu, 12-27-2012 - 1:04pm
Sorry about the TV.

Michelle

Mom to Addison (7) & Gabriel (4)

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In reply to: tmdm2007
Thu, 12-27-2012 - 1:01pm
LOL - I've only done it when she is REALLY sick and I am worried about her temp reaching a critical level. We have an ear one too and ours is very inaccurate. The forehead one seems ok but still makes me nervous. One time in the Dr. office he did the forehead temp check on Gabe and it was 99.5. We didn't believe it because he seemed much warmer so he did a rectal check on Gabe and it was 103....huge difference!

Michelle

Mom to Addison (7) & Gabriel (4)

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Fri, 12-21-2012 - 2:10pm

OMG Michelle I could not imagine trying to use a rectal thermometer on a 6yo! I don't even do it on babies. I do it in the ear. Speaking of which, Lexi blew the biggest snot bubble ever out of her nose the other morning! It was seriously 3 times the size of her nose! It was both disgusting and hilarious!

We got a new TV. More money we really didn't want to have to spend :-P

My idiot coworker has been gone the past 3 days. It's been so nice. Luckily we haven't been super busy. Even when I am busy though I still don't miss her at all. She sucks.

This is the last time I'll be on until sometime next week, so Merry Christmas, girls!

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In reply to: tmdm2007
Fri, 12-21-2012 - 11:31am

I finally managed to go take a look at the 2009 playgroup friends group, and there is nothing going on there.  It appears (according to the only real thread there) that all their previous posts have vanished.  So, like Shawna, I in favor of staying as our own small little group.


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