I always wanted two kids, and so did DH.
Sorry to thread jack - JJ is my second so this a mute question for me LOL.
But I just had to say I LOVE the picture of piper and your feet - now I have to take one of Anisa's and my feet. Good idea :)
haha...im totally stealing the pic idea, too! ive seen another idea i want to try where you lay down and take a pic of the bottoms of your feet...super cute :)
for me, it was more about giving DD a sibling...there is nothing like seeing the love they have for eachother! we waited 3yrs and are done with two, but i wouldnt change a thing. Jas was an easy baby, though...i always joke if Matteo was first, he might be an only child! LOL good luck with whatever you decide!
I could have written your post about 4 months ago...after Reece was born it was just so HARD being a new mom (and getting up in the middle of the night was, and is still, the hardest part for me), that I had pretty much decided that one child was enough!! It took about 5 months until I had gotten to the point where I had changed my mind a little bit and was OPEN to maybe having another one...I know DH would totally be happy with just one, though (he's an only child himself). But, we have pretty much decided (well, I have decided, DH will do whatever I want to do!) to have another one.
I definitely agree with the PP - for me, it's about having a brother or sister for Reece. My brother and I are really close and get along really well, and if we didn't have another one I would be afraid that we wouldn't be giving him a great opportunity for a great sibling relationship, you know? But, like you, I want at least a 3 year (preferably a 4 year) separation between the two, so we won't be trying for quite a while. And as Reece gets older and things get easier and he gets more fun and able to do more things, I do think it would be fun to have one more. But two is definitely my limit!
I totally think that if you want just one, that is wonderful! I totally understand your decision - we had trouble getting pregnant with Reece, so if we have a really hard time with #2, we will probably decide to just stop trying at some point and be perfectly happy with just Reece. :) But I know what you mean, it does seem like everyone is going for #2 already or already has 2+ kids!
I think Dylan will be our only child. My DH really loves kids -- he used to joke that he wanted to have ten. But, we had a really hard time after Dylan was born, and it took about six months before I could even think about having another child. I had terrible PPD and PTSD, and I never felt equipped to handle the day-to-day grind of motherhood. But then, around Thanksgiving, everything started to get better. I've always loved Dylan, but I started to really enjoy him then.
But then, at the beginning of December, my OB discovered a ton of cysts on my ovaries. She says it will be very hard for us to conceive again, and even harder to stay pregnant if we do manage. I think my DH is still holding out hope that it will happen for us, but I'm trying to focus on how happy we are with Dylan. Having only one child will mean that we have more time (and money) to spend on him. And truly, I don't think I could ever look forward to the first six months again. It was just too hard.
I think I may have had some form of PPD, or else I just have some mild depression
It is SUCH a hard decision! When DS (now 4) was 5 months old, DH said that he was fine with just 1 if that was what I wanted and I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of me. It was around then that the PPD suddenly disappeared, too, btw. I was SOOO happy about having just DS. Well, fast forward a couple of years and my friends were having 2nd babies and I got to hold them. My hormones caught that scent of baby and then I HAD to have another baby. But I am done now:)
So I guess the moral is, if you want Elena to be your one and only, don't hold other babies!
And I bet you're a better mom than you think you are:)
LOL - one of my close friends just found out the other day that she is pg with #2 and I felt the slightest little stab of jealousy. Then I got over it. It's probably a good thing in a way that she lives halfway across the country because I won't be there to hold the new baby when it's born. LOL.
Emma Grace EDD June 24, 2009