Btdt disciplining older kids?
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Btdt disciplining older kids?
| Fri, 07-15-2011 - 3:08am |
For those who have older children does anyone have experience with kids who don't respond to punishment? James doesn't respond at all to any that we have used and can stand in the corner time after time for doing something and go right back to it. Usually we can use positive reinforcement but days like today where he is completely out of control it seems the more we punish him the worse he gets ( today ended with him peeing all over him room and on his brother). As he gets older I'm afraid it will just get worse if we don't figure it out now.
Amy ideas?
Amy ideas?
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I am going to talk to his dr in a few weeks when I take the baby in. It isn't an every day thing so I will keep working on rewarding positive behavior.
Well I like the suggestion of seeing a counselor for him. Just to make sure nothing else is going on.
And I know I don't have experiance with older kids, and I'm gonna catch it for this, but I kind of look at child raising is like training a dog. You have to be consistant. Yep its hard, but they can't get away with something one day, and not the next. Its hard, and no way easy, but you have to do your best at it, or else they do get confused. KWIM?
I am reading Dr. Dobsons, A Strong Willed Child. It has given me a good outlook on what to do with Carolynn, and has helped greatly.
I have a four year old who is pretty clever and actually chooses the consequence sometimes.
That is really tough. I have been there for sure! I wrote a really long response but then deleted it. I tried so many things, read so many books trying to find the tools to help my second daughter but eventually taking her to a behavioral specialist was the answer. They can help with so many different issues and they can help you find the cause behind the issue. The sooner you are able to obtain the tools you need to help guide your child through difficult situations the more success you will have with them. It is great that you are working on it now. All that said, not every kid with a defiant streak needs a cure, it could just be a faze. I hope you are able to find what works for you.
Tiffany