Baby Boy or Baby Girl? One Couple Won't Tell...

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Baby Boy or Baby Girl? One Couple Won't Tell...
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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 4:28pm

An interesting story! Your thoughts?

Hope you're all having a great week!

Pat

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Baby Boy or Baby Girl? One Couple Won't Tell

There are countless things in this world I don’t understand: my TV remote, aerospace engineering, trigonometry and my dog’s fascination with armpits leap immediately to mind. But topping the list this week is the decision of one Toronto couple to try to raise a “genderless baby.”

Oh, 4-month-old baby Storm apparently has a perfectly proper little private part, but her/his parents simply refuse to tell the world what it is.

Parent Central
reports that after Storm's birth, Witterick and Stocker sent out an email saying, “We've decided not to share Storm's sex for now -- a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm's lifetime (a more progressive place? ...).”

The couple has two older sons who have long hair and the occasional urge to wear a dress (perfectly normal and not unlike a lot of boys who know they're boys). Witterick and Stocker admit they are “almost exclusively assumed to be girls,” adding that it’s the boys’ choice whether or not they want to correct people.

I’m trying to wrap my brain around the reasons for this little social experiment. Yes, for the most part, people treat boys and girls differently. We buy them different colored clothes and different sorts of toys. We wrestle with one and serve pretend-tea to the other. But how does not knowing a child’s sex help anyone? If they told us that Storm is a girl, we could buy her a dump truck and thumb our noses at our society’s shackling gender stereotypes anyway, couldn’t we? If he's a boy we could still outfit him in frilly layers of pink. As it is, all they're doing is creating a confusing nightmare of nicknames (he/she, brother/sister, niece/nephew, son/daughter) for anyone involved with this family.

When it comes to gender identity, Storm’s parents could still allow him/her to decide who he/she wants to be and how he/she wants to dress and wear his/her hair, just like his/her older brothers. (Do you see how annoying that is?) Insisting a child be one sex or the other may be wrong, but I think forcing him to be neither is worse.


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I think it's very interesting but I don't see how it's really going to change things. If they're already OK with their boys wearing dresses and having long hair then I don't think if Storm is a little girl she wouldn't be allowed to play ball. I think they're turning his/her gender into something even bigger by not annoucing it.
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I agree, I think they are making too much of it. If they honestly want to raise their children with no stereotyping then they should just do it. No big discussion or news releases, just do it lol!

Hope you have a nice weekend :)
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I think it is utterly ridiculous myself. I think they are concerned about social stigmas and don't even see that they are only going to make things more confusing for little Storm. Frankly, I couldn't care less if Storm is a boy or girl. They want to have a bunch of attention by trying to entrigue others by not sharing the gender.... well they're getting plenty of attention and plenty of people are talking about it. You should hear how some people get all riled up when some people are using "sex" and "gender" interchangeably. I say a lot of turmoil over nothing. Thing is, that little baby is eventually going to show them that s/he knows the difference between girls and boys. It is ingrained that we know the difference. Ridiculous, I say! LOL

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