Why are families stupid about BFing??

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Registered: 02-22-2006
Why are families stupid about BFing??
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Mon, 03-15-2010 - 11:33pm

I'm sorry, but this just peeves me so much. Why would anyone be against me doing the best thing for my baby?!? My in-laws are ridiculous about Bfing for anything longer than like a couple of months. My MIL constantly says how she can't believe people would go for longer because, Oh my Gosh!, the baby gets teeth. Um, they don't bite you, dummy!!! I have BFed both the boys too and it never happened, you think she would realize that by the 3rd time. And even if it did, I wouldn't stop, so there!! My grandmother-in-law is the same way. She keeps trying to get me to feed Norah solid food right now and telling me I should stop BFing soon so that I can be "free." Free from what, giving the best to my child and loving every minute of it? She also completely believes that things that were done in the 1950s are still great, no matter what modern medicine says, ok, right. They didn't BF their kids, so I shouldn't.

Anyway, sorry to go off, but they drive me bananas!! I can't scream at them, so I just had to rant :) Thanks for listening!

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Registered: 01-19-2009
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 2:25am
Rant away! I got the same thing from people, and then when I stopped being able to breastfeed I was told I was an awful parent for giving my child formula. Oh gee, if I had know YOU wanted me to breast feed I wouldn't have purposefully put gall stones in my gall bladder and made my supply dry up. You should have told me sooner! Ugh. They are never happy unless they are telling you what to do and how to do it. That's why in my little about me on iVillage it says my favorite quote is: just ignore them. Words to live by!






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Registered: 07-10-2009
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 3:28am
I think I would have a very hard time biting my tongue on that one so kudos to you! I would print them up something with the facts and say this is my choice and would appreciate if you could respect it and not give me grief over it, thank you:) But if they are sensitive people I guess that could tick them off... Good luck hope they ease up!

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 8:17am

I'm sorry family is still giving you grief! This is my 3rd also, and by now I think everyone is pretty comfortable with the situation - even FIL no longer leaves the room or avoids eye contact when I'm nursing, lol. I never had anyone tell me not to do it, just that it would be really hard and I probably wouldn't stick with it for long, etc, etc. I think part of it is that i'm a scientist, well-educated and not particularly shy (I teach), so those people who think it's odd probably knew better than to get into an argument about it with me. :)

Rebecca

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Registered: 03-05-2009
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 12:32pm

I have this same issue with my MIL! I spoke to my mom about it and she explained that since MIL didnt nurse, my choosing to and all the info about it being the best thing is a slap at her- that she didnt do the best she could for my DH. I never thought it about it that way- that its not that she thinks breastfeeding is awful, its that she didnt do it. I think mil is also jealous as I have 3 kids after infertility and she could only have dh. I try to be understanding but its frustrating. The one thing thats helped is that Dr. Phil says that breastfedding is best...so since an "expert" says it, she's ok with it. But she does still ask when I'll be done nursing the baby (you'd think she'd guess since DS was 18m and DD#1 was 14m, lol).


Its frustrating, I agree!

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