4 Yr. Olds... What's Normal?
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|Wed, 09-01-2010 - 1:01pm|
Brynn's board is not really that active anymore so I figured I would try to post this here first! I have been having some pretty bad behavior problems with Brynn again. This happened about this time last year and lasted a few months but now I'm getting worried that we've got some issues that I really need to work on before she starts school. I kept her out of VPK because we are moving in a few weeks and didn't want her to make friends for a few weeks and then pick up and move schools... I figure the move itself will be stressful enough for her. Even though she has been to the house we are moving to several times and she loves DF's parents, the transition will still be quite difficult on her I'm sure.
Anyway, she turns 5 in February. I guess I just need to know what's normal for her age? I've never been around any other 4 year old's other than my siblings and I can't really remember what was going on since I was a teenager by the time they were that age.
She is still having multiple accidents at night. I wake her up 2-3 times at night (I just do it every time Rhett wakes up or I have to pee!) and usually by the time I wake her up the first time when I'm going to bed, she's already had an accident. It's always been this way since she was PT'd. DF has been getting on me about working with her on it but I swear she just sleeps right through it! I have had many, many talks with her about coming and waking me up if she needs to go. I've given her flashlights because she said she's afraid of the dark. I've even put a potty seat in her room (the bathroom is right across from her doorway). I had her out of pull-ups for about a year and got really tired of washing the sheets and blankets every day so I just recently put her back in them. She also does not have anything to drink after 6.
Also, she does not seem to do anything on her own. I have tried teaching and showing her how to get dressed, how to wipe herself, how to entertain herself for just 10-15 minutes in her room so I can get something done... and she is just reluctant to do anything on her own. I have not babied this child, I do not know why we are having such a problem! It's normal to expect her to be able to take her clothes off and put clothes on by herself right? Also, wiping, I have put wet wipes in the bathroom, I have tried showing her and she just yells my name from the bathroom every time with it smeared up her back... sorry, but I am starting to wonder how the heck she will ever make it through school if she doesn't get a grip on these things now! I know that she is jealous of Rhett and that's part of the problem. I had a big talk with DF last night because he, too, has noticed that it's getting worse and not better. I told him at this point, I spend more time helping Brynn and doing things for Brynn than I do with Rhett. In other words, she consumes more of my time than he does!
I guess what would help me is what things do your 4 year olds do by themselves? I would like to start teaching her that she needs to be independent a little bit. She is a very difficult child... I'm starting to wonder if I made a mistake keeping her out of VPK.