Could realllllly use some advice. Touchy subject with in-laws.

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Registered: 08-26-2010
Could realllllly use some advice. Touchy subject with in-laws.
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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 6:52pm

So, I could really use some help on this one... We are going to be having a very difficult conversation with my inlaws soon.

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Registered: 03-22-2011
MIL starring at the wall and not talking is basically one of the best things a wife can ask for lol. I would always piss her off on purpose!!
Your basically going to let them know that they can't work their magic on your baby right?!! D@mn them if they don't understand. They can't force their ways and beliefs on you and ur family. I would tell them how I felt and if they didn't like it ... the hell with them... that's just me! If they wanna act funny about it they will miss out on the baby. Which I'm sure after awhile they will realize what's right hopefully! When I was pregnant with DD my FIL and I couldn't stand each other, I still don't like him. But because he couldn't change his ways he wasn't around my child. The child does lose out too, but hey something had to give with him!
I hope all goes well with the convo! If she sit in the corner and cross her arms, please take a pic and put it on facebook lol
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Registered: 04-18-2011
Wow, they sound super strange! I would just be blunt about it, "We don't want to offend you, but we don't want the baby to have any adjustments."

Also, they sound like the kind of people that would do it anyways, so I'd be careful about leaving the baby alone with them.
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Registered: 08-26-2010
HAH post it on fb!!! lol I wish I could... It is to the point though, that unfortunately our child will miss out on them if they decide to ignore us and do it anyway, which they probably will.
My parents agree on the no-chiropractics subject and will be watching them to make sure they do not do it if we're not around. We will NOT be leaving the baby alone with my husband's parents.
I am so worried they're going to pitch a major fit and then get even more stuck on what they think is right...
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Registered: 04-28-2011

I'm sorry your having to deal with this.

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Registered: 05-04-2011

Crummy.

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Registered: 03-25-2003

Omg, I would NOT let them do chiropractice on my child at that age period!

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Registered: 03-27-2003

Wow. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't believe you even have to deal with such an assinine issue. It honestly sounds like you're in no-win situation. You obviously have to let your feelings known and set some groundrules, but it doesn't sound like there's any way to avoid having your in-laws get upset. In that case, I'd just say it as to the point as possible so there's no mistaking the message and leave it alone. DH and I have discussed it and there will be no adjustments on baby. Now, how about some coffee?" :smileywink: Ugh, seriously though, I'm sorry. This just sounds like a crappy situation all around.

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How awkward and sad. I think you'll just have to tell them in plain language and not allow any room for discussion. Doing it in public might not be a bad idea. My in-laws weren't happy about either pregnancy but they come around once the baby is born. Not that you can leave yours alone with them but they might be better behaved once they start visiting the baby.

I have a friend who smoked through her whole 1st pregnancy and the baby has a lot of breathing issues & illnesses. They've turned to alternate medicines and used a chiropractor on him. I don't agree with it but he seems to be ok so far.
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Yikes, I don't deal well with people like this. I think I would just flat out tell them its not going to happen, period. Don't sugar coat anything for them. If they get mad, oh well. They will get happy in the same pants they got mad in. I can't believe they try and adjust your pets, how ridiculous.

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Registered: 04-12-2010
Ugh that is definitely a rough situation. My sister also has to deal with crazy in laws (I cannot say I am jealous). I think there is probably going to be no good way to go about this. Best to do it quickly like ripping off a bandaid. Also prepare your DH. Let him know you still love him since it will no doubt place him in an awkward spot when they react as you expect. I think the best thing to do is support him. While he might realize his parents are reacting poorly he will still probably be upset that his family is not acting as a family should.
Much luck!

Dixie

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