Delivery room visitors during labor?

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Delivery room visitors during labor?
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 12:36pm
I know this already has been covered, but just wondering... As things get closer, has everyone decided on who will be in the delivery room during labor?
I will be kicking everyone but hubby out during the hard pushing phase, and probably will only allow MY parents in during the beginning stages, if they are even here in time- both sets of parents are out of state. Hubby's parents aren't even sure they'll come out immediately since I informed them they won't be in the delivery room (they're mad at me for it)... Not my problem! Lol
Anyone else made the "final" decision? How did everyone take it? I know my parents were a bit upset at not being in for the pushing phase, but they at least respect the decision and got over it.

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Thu, 10-27-2011 - 9:47am

I have always only had dear husband in there, but this time I plan on having, DH, bestfriend and my Auntie,

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Registered: 05-04-2011
Thu, 10-27-2011 - 1:58am
I didn't have anyone steal my child (other than the staff, but that's their job) but with DS1, my mum couldn't keep her mouth shut and squealed "It's a boy!" so loudly that my dad, brother, FIL and BIL could hear her way down in the waiting room, and I hadn't even had a chance to look yet. That was disappointing. :(

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Registered: 08-26-2010
Wed, 10-26-2011 - 12:13pm
We want to be sure we get time with the little guy by ourselves... That's a huge part of why I am kicking everyone out. Well that's the reason for my parents, not the reason the in laws are banned. They just plain suck and stress me out; I'd labor completely alone before letting either of them in! lol
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Registered: 08-11-2009
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 7:00pm

Just my husband. My mom was there for my first because DH was not, but it was just DH for the second and it will stay that way. My mom or sister would be there if there was an emergency and the baby comes early while DH is out of town. I would never ever ever ever allow my MIL or FIL in the delivery room - absolutely not! It would completely stress me out and to be honest, it's completely inappropriate for them to even suggest that they should be there. For the pushing part, you definitely want it to just be you and your hubby and make sure you guys get time to hold and bond with your baby before they let any visitors in. I had words with the L&D nurse last time over this - they notified my mother, sister, and daughter as soon as the baby was born, so they swooped in and grabbed her before we could even hold our own child :(

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Registered: 07-07-2006
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 1:56pm

My dh has been the only one in there when it was actually time for delivery. Last time it "could" have been my mil bc she was actually at the hospital working in a different ward and

Jill, mommy to Chloe, almost 5, Oliver, 3 & baby Ella born 12-1-11 !
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 12:45pm

When I had my son, my husband really had no idea what to do. lol.

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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 12:02pm
Seems like lots of moms and husbands! :) IF my parents are there my mom AND dad will be backup if hubby freaks for some odd reason, which I highly doubt. If my hubby were to pass out or fall asleep I'd be so surprised I'd really actually be concerned about him instead of mad lol.
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 11:17am
When I delivered my first, I was adamant that only my husband-of-the-time be there. Well, he was honestly no help at all. I know he was exhausted from working all day, but he fell asleep and was snoring so loudly the nurses kept running down the hall to check on me because they thought I was making the noise! Very embarrassing... I ended up pushing for 3.5 hours and he was up and helping at that point it would have been nice to have him helping me during the painful laboring process before they gave me the epidural.
This time around with new hubby, he's much more supportive, though I'm also worried about him getting tired after a long day at work, so I guess it depends on when we get to the hospital (hopefully after a weekend when he's well rested LOL!). I have told his mom & my mom they can be in the delivery room but I will let them know beforehand that I have the choice at any time to kick them out if I deem necessary!!
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Registered: 04-28-2011
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 11:00am

As long as everything goes as planned, Just my hubby and the medical staff.

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Registered: 04-12-2010
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 5:01am
Personal family wise my sister and DH. I really think during that point my sister will be much more helpful then my DH. I have also already told my DH I would be more then fine with a student nurse in there. I was once in their shoes I know how boring it can be when all the moms refuse. Plus if we don't train new nurses for labor and delivery who will be there next time, lol.

Dixie

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