I just read an interesting article online.
I didn't read the article but I am going to try and answer you anyways. :) So I guess it depends on the situation. After I make dinner I will serve everyone including DH, I ALWAYS serve the kids first, and he gets their drinks (so basically all of thier basic NEEDS come first). Which is how he would prefer it as well, they come first in that aspect, however, some things my DH comes first. We have to be strong and happy to have healthy, strong and happy children. I just seen also in the link you posted it says "Loving-husband-more-kids-key-good-life" hmmm, if this article is about LOVING my DH more than my children, that's a bit odd to me. It is 2 totally different loves and you can't even compare or put one over the other, IMH anyways... hmmm, maybe I will read the article tomorrow. Right now its LAAAATE and I'm exhausted. I know hands down I do not want my DH to love me MORE than our children. I want to be loved equally but a different type of love.
Well, I agree that it's a different kind of love.
Michelle due 2/12/10 w/#4
Kids are definitely first.
I'll be at home with DH long after the kids have flown the coop, so while I love my children, it's extremely important that DH and I cultivate our relationship apart from being parents to our children.
Proud mama of Tiffany(10), Nathan(9),
The kind of love we have for our husbands and children are definitely different, eventhough we love both like you all said.
rnmama6 wrote:That is a very interesting take. I have always been on the whole kids come first way of thinking. Mg ex husband, however, once told me that he put my needs first because it was me, nit the kids, that he would grow old and die with. I have actually considered the wisdom of that comment very often. It makes sense but old habits die hard I guess.
I giggled a little that it was your ex who said he put you first. Irony is such a funny thing, isn't it?
Yea, it is ironic.