Its been a long couple of weeks :(

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Its been a long couple of weeks :(
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 1:22am

Sooo on November 3rd I found out that I have gestation diabetes. Well, they sent a referral over to the gestational diabetes specialist that day and they (GD specialist) sat on it until NOW, I have my first appointment on Monday to get all of my stuff, start my daily testing and diet. This all after my Dr appointment on the 22nd, when I told my Dr and she called and ripped into them because the office marked it as urgent as I am so far along at this point. Anyhow, that appointment went HORRIBLE!! She is already throwing c-section at me because she *THINKS* the baby might be too big. UGH, I am having NO PART OF IT AT ALL!! I delivered an 8lb 14oz HUGE shoulder boy in 2-3 pushes with no issues, I'm sure I will be able to get Adelaide out. I have an U/S on the 23rd to measure her size (which could be off by 2lbs or more) and IF they THINK she will be over 9.5 lbs they are going to try to shove a c-section on me, which I will absolutely REFUSE. I demand that they at least allow me to try to do it naturally first, this isn't my first go around and I have done it 3 times over with big babies. My body was made to deliver big babies. I get them out in 3 pushes tops.

Any how, so she had me start non stress tests, twice a week to make sure Addie is doing ok because of the GD thing. Well today was my first non stress test where we found out that I am contracting every 3-4 mins. I was SHOCKED!!! I knew I was contracting but I didn't realize that close and regular. So the Dr there at the hospital said, we will see you next week for your 2 NSTs and then I'm betting the next week when we see you will be because you are in labor. YAY!! I'm hoping I go into labor the first week of December. I refuse to have a c-section. The thought makes me a sick nervous wreck, to the point I would do something stupid like when I go into labor not go to the hospital until the last min, OR if when I see my Dr again on the 29th and she starts trying to back me into a corner with this whole c-section thing, I might just switch Drs. Something I don't want to do but will if I absolutely have to.

So that's my update, I have felt so disconnected and scared since she said c-section and she kept throwing still birth and perm damage around (which I think was to scare me). She kept saying still birth over the GD thing and them sitting on it forever (why you would say that to a mother who has had losses recently I don't know) so when I got home I did some research and the %ing of still birth is soooo low. Then she kept trying to scare me into forcing me to have a c-section by saying that I WILL break Addies clavicle bone and it WILL cause perm damage, again I came home and started researching that heck out of that. That break is such a common break and heals very easily and the chances of perm damage are so low. I feel like she is just trying to scare me to death so I will be a "Yes girl" and just do as she says so she can quickly take me to the OR, slice me open get Addie out and make more money. So irritating and has had me a mess. My poor DH, I have spent many sine crying myself to sleep. I just want Addie to be here and ok and I don't want to feel all this extra stress from my Dr which ISN'T good for me, Addie or my sugar levels, I guess stress makes it worse.

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Tue, 11-22-2011 - 11:44am
Good for you! It's nice to have things go your way & for you to feel more secure in your upcoming delivery. I think it will all work out for you!
Jill, mommy to Chloe, almost 5, Oliver, 3 & baby Ella born 12-1-11 !
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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 10:38pm
Glad things went well today!
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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 10:27pm

So glad it went well for you today!

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 9:44pm

Soooooo glad you're feeling better about the situation!! It sounds like you have another option if you need/want to leave your current doctor. Good luck with whatever you decide! Fingers crossed you have nothing but a healthy vaginal delivery just like you want! Good luck and keep us posted with your decision!

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 9:22pm

A sorta kinda of update:

OK so today I had my GD class, which went GREAT!!! The finger poking and the diet is going to be MUCH EASIER than I expected. The best part though, this class happens to be at the hospital I have thought about switching to if my Dr keeps pushing the c-section deal. Well the nurse that was "teaching" the class actually works in the L&D there and first hand with all the OBs there at the hospital, plus another one of the GD mommas is a nurse at this hospital and her OB is there as well. Any how, when the nurse started talking about how GD produces bigger babies, I asked her if at this hospital they push c-sections on mother who's babies are *THOUGHT* to be over 9.5lbs. She said NO WAY, in fact we don't even talk c-section UNTIL AFTER a vaginal delivery has been attempted and failed. She was HIGHLY upset at the way my Dr was going about it and trying to push me into a corner with it. She said it is NOT right and that she is not allowed to do this, and that ultimately she can NOT force me to have a c-section. She then told me the OBs there are GREAT and that after my U/S if my Dr keeps pushing the issue to switch over RIGHT AWAY and that I will be taken care of. I feel SO MUCH better hearing this and kind of getting a second opinion and knowing I have an option where I am not going to be treated in a way I don't feel is right. I think my DH was right and it all comes down to my Dr no longer working under UCDavis and doing as she pleases now. My DH thinks I should just switch right now and get it over with and feel better about the whole delivery situation. I just don't know what all its going to entail with tricare. I think I will give them a call tomorrow and see if I will need another referral. If not, I might just do it. So all around GREAT day that left me feeling VERY hopeful and excited that I have a place I can go to where I will feel safe and protected.

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Sat, 11-19-2011 - 9:14am
"I think she is also over correcting for a HUGE HUGE HUGE mistake she made recently and let a baby die, again IMHO she was being lazy and brushed the mother and her concerns off and had a term baby die"

Right there is exactly the reason that she is doing what she's doing to you. She's terrified that it is going to happen again, so she is going overboard on his interventions in the hopes of it not ever happening again. However, it sort of sounds like she was "done" with her job before this tragic event happened to the other mother/baby, or she wouldn't have just brushed it off. But yeah, you know the reason she is saying what she is saying to you. I'd just stick with your plans for now unless things change and you feel that a c-section would be best.


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Sat, 11-19-2011 - 9:02am
Sorry you are having to deal with this, it does indeed sound stressful. I guess I am kind of split on the issue. I tend to be one who trusts medical opinions unless they sound outrageous. I also don't think having a c-section is the worst thing ever. It isn't something I would pick if I had the option, but to me delivery is just means to an end. I agree with others about being leary of size estimates that are so notorious for being off. Is there any way you could get a 2nd opinion from another doc?

I'm not well versed in medical knowledge enough to know how much she is telling you is true risk vs scare tactic. I do know I personally would rather have a c-section than have a baby with a broken bone (if that is a true risk) because broken bones are so painful. I'd feel bad if something happened and I could have prevented it. At the same time...how can she be so sure ahead of time that that will be an issue?I don't know, I guess I would really need more info before I could make a decision either way.

I guess it is one of those issues where you have to balance your gut feeling with medical advice...that is hard to do! I hope everything works out and you are able to deliver the way you want, but if it happens that you have to have a c-section..don't beat yourself up!
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Sat, 11-19-2011 - 3:24am

Sarah, I don't think you'll end up having a csection.

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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 8:40pm
I'm so sorry to hear about that other baby. :( It does sounds like she's scared to let anything happen again. 6 years ago, stairs were no problem after my c/s but, now I worry how tired I'll be.
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Fri, 11-18-2011 - 4:52pm

I'm so sorry to hear you have been dealing with all of this!

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