Name help/advice

I have a similiar issue in that i need to make both sides happy but my problem is I have issues with the names I have to choose from! they aren't all prettey and my husbands side has nicer names then mine...but if i only use names from his side I'll have offended mine! I think I'll have to be strong and say my child my choice but i know the guilt will eat me up that i didn't please everyone....does your family care which name is given in what placement? like is the 2nd name more imp. then the third? I like the combo of Harlow kathleen and since you can't do Lisa I like Nancy better. cooper..They are all pretty so you can't go wrong!

Must you use the names exactly? Couldn't you use a similar name in honor of the person?

I just don't feel that Barbara, Lisa, Kathleen or Nancy go well with Harlow. Harlow has a much cooler vibe, and even your last name does, but Barbara, Lisa, Kathleen and Nancy, just sound like children of the 50 and 60's to me.

Maybe like Analiese, instead of Lisa
Katherine/Catherine or Kate instead of Kathleen
etc.
For example, my grandmother was named Zeida (pronounced Sayda) and it just so happens we liked the name Sadie, so we named our daughter Sadie in her honor, even though she wasn't named exactly after her. My husband wouldn't agree but I had long liked the name Eden and wanted to name her in honor of an aunt name Edna.

If you are open to variations, Nameberry has some really prolific namers there and could you alternatives to honor these family members but flow a bit better with Harlow Cooper.