i can't help you but i am scared of everything including labor and delivery and raising another child.. You think you need a refresher???My only child is 15 & 1/2!!!!
I have the irrational fears as well, but mine are mostly regarding the CS (I had a horrible experience last time) and not getting any sleep. I know sleep is probably everyone's issue, but that is always the thing that stresses me the most. I get panic attacks over it!! This is really a problem because I know the more stressed I am, the more stressed baby gets....ugh...it's a vicious cycle!!
I may as well have never had a child...I can't remember much of anything now. It stinks. Its all really "new" to me. I think i have the oldest child on here and the largest time span of having children. I wish i didn't do it like this..Its really really hard going from having some freedom with a teen and having not much freedom with a brand new baby.
*chuckle* You may have the biggest spread, but you are not completely alone in feeling a certain loss of freedom... With my third, I weaned #2 before he was born.
There aren't that many years between mine either, but I have been realizing how different it will be.