Starting to worry/feeling overwhelmed about having a 3rd child
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| Wed, 03-09-2011 - 12:38pm |
Though I know I've said I always wanted 3 kids... now that I am actually pregnant with #3 (and halfway to birth!) I am starting to freak out. Not to mention this pregnancy was a total shock. We were going to hold off on #3 for a few more years, especially due to the fact we realized we do not like the 2 year spacing (first 2 children are 27 months apart--exactly the same spacing this time around. Go figure!).
I had a TOUGH time going from 1 to 2 kids. I found it much harder than going from 0 to 1. My DD was a colicky baby, my DS started to really act out for the first time, and it was a nightmare. I just hope this time around, we have a relatively calm baby like DS was.
I just try to picture myself going out in public, ALONE, with 3 kids under 5. It honestly gives me a panic attack. Some days it doesn't bother me as much, and I am more focused on the excitement and joy of adding another child to our family. But today it is making me feel very BLAH about it all.
My kids now (DS is 4 and DD turns 2 next month) are still young and needy, they never give me a break. I am exhausted. DS is getting harder to discipline. DS and DD fight all. day. long. Even a trip to the grocery store for milk is something that is getting so much harder to do (DD is a whiner (and a screamer)
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I can totally relate to what you are saying although I haven't really had the panic or worry about adding this baby...
...my kids, DS8 and DD2 also fight.
I can sort of relate but I'm only going from one to two, instead of two to three.
Shell, I can relate although this is only #2..The time span of 15 years is insane...I was freaking out this weekend (thinking about all the time, energy and money a baby and child consume)...I will be doing everything again so much older and feeling like i never did this before...I so feel like a FTM and I think i am worrying more about baby's safety in the world in general than i did with DD15. Having a teen at the same time as a newborn is NOT easy esp. one who is no help these days and very negative about me having a baby (hope that changes).
Shell you are NOT alone.
I think I have already decided that there is no way that I am leaving my house alone with 3 little kids. I cringe to even think about it. It's already a struggle with my current 2 kids. They're either staying at home or dh is coming along for the ride!
Sometimes it's hard to be optimistic at the thought of bringing another child into the family. We just have to keep our heads up and everything will work out in the end. :)
I also talked to my DH about how I was feeling. He even left work early so I could run a few errands alone and recharge my batteries. I never knew a trip to the grocery store could be so theraputic! LOL.
Thanks again ladies. We will and can do this. :)
That's so nice Shell that your DH came home so you could do errands alone :) I know i remember going food shopping alone was nice when my DD was little. I guess i'll be doing that again hahahaha
I have bene worried about it too..but i keep reminding myself that my kids are older, and it should be "easier" in some ways..even thought this time around i won't have my husband to help me because he will be deployed, so I am freaking out a little about that.
My daughter will be one month shy of being 12 and my son will be 7... so i know i will be able to count on them, but only to a certain point..I will deliver in the summer..so that means that they will require more attention then when they are in school.
I haven't held a newborn or had to do anything baby related in what it seems a LOOONG time..and that is very scary to me..so just remember to take it one step at a time and that things definately happen for a reason.:)
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I am
::big hugs::
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