Diving in, but is Hubby on board?
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|Wed, 09-05-2012 - 9:20pm|
I'm hoping to connect with someone I can chat with. I'm an adoptee, married to my best friend who just happens to be a Navy Submariner. We'd like to adopt twins next year, but I'm really struggling with this.
See, I have one ovary (one was removed due to tumors), Endometriosis, Fibriods, and PCOS. And I'm already nearly 33. He's 29 and neither of us have kids, so we're looking forward to growing our family.
Knowing that he's a Submariner and will be gone a lot (about 6 months/year, in about 2 sets of deployments), I am actually not worried about the fact that infertility is an issue for me. What pains me is the feeling that I'm disappointing him (totally irrational, I know). He hasn't gotten tested for fertility yet. Everytime I bring it up, he seems to shut down. I keep hearing that he's tired (which is legit - he's currently working a 11pm-6am shift), and just doesn't want to talk about it, but he was the one who was completely behind it last week.
So I'd really like someone to bounce some of these crazy emotions off of - someone who's "been there done that". Maybe I'm an odd duck in that Adopting was ALWAYS my "Plan A" for having kids. I'm adopted myself and it was a HUGE blessing in my life. It's his "Plan B" for sure and I'm having trouble understanding where he's coming from regarding "passing on a legacy", etc. Could use some outside insight.