third time's a charm I hope!
Sounds like mostly communication issues to me.
I think it may be a good idea to have a conversation with her right away, if not in person then over the phone when you can.
I agree that open adoption with CPS cases can be very different than an open adoption under other circumstances for the reason that you mentioned and more.
My only advice is to not stress about it too much if it does not work to maintain contact. Like you said, being that Gracie was removed from her birth mom's care by CPS the openess issue is sooo different! She was put with you to be safe. If contact with her birthmom leads to an unsafe or even emotionally unsafe situation then it just can't be done.
So, I just called (Its Monday, and I said Id call today) .. and she didnt answer.
I think it's great that you want to maintain contact with your children's birthparents but mental illness can make some people's behavior unpredictable.
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