A long-ago poster returnswith good news!

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A long-ago poster returnswith good news!
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Mon, 04-21-2003 - 3:33pm
Well, it is official! Our baby son in South Korea has been referred to us for adoption! He was born March 11th and we received word that he would be ours on Thursday of last week!

His Korean name is Joon-Hyung it means "Strong and Bright" and we are keeping it as his middle name. His name will be Theodore Joon-Hyung and we will call him Theo!

He is currently living with a foster family in Seoul and we should be welcoming him home sometime in July or August! We can hardly wait to hold him!

Kate

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Mon, 04-21-2003 - 4:02pm
Oh my, how fantastically wonderful!!!!!!! How dizzying it will be over the next few months preparing to bring home your little boy (all in fun, naturally!!). And what a beautiful name you have decided upon!!


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Mon, 04-21-2003 - 5:56pm
Hi -- I read your post and would love to pick your brain a little. My DH and I are currently exploring our options with adoption. International seems to be the way to go in terms of wanting a completely closed adoption and the "eligibilty requirements" with domestic. Maybe I have talked to the wrong people but, I am married to a divorced father of two teenagers and that seems to be hindering me not to mention my age -- late 30s.

Can you -- somewhat briefly -- walk me through your process to get to the point of choosing an agency, selecting a country(ies), etc? I am totally overwhelmed right now.

Thank you so much.

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Mon, 04-21-2003 - 8:21pm
"Hi -- I read your post and would love to pick your brain a little. My DH and I are currently exploring our options with adoption. International seems to be the way to go in terms of wanting a completely closed adoption and the "eligibilty requirements" with domestic."

Hi, shc65, I don't know how much I can help because so much of this varies from agency to agency...I will tell you that I am a mother to a 4 year old daughter through semi-open domestic adoption, so our family did not actually choose international for a closed adoption. In fact, I welcome contact with my son's birthfamily through the agency and I am hoping that it will be possible for him to locate his birthfamily when he is a young man. In Korea, odds are pretty good that a returning adoptee will be able to find some birthfamily members, because the agencies keep the records on file. One of the main reasons we chose Korea was for this reason. I would encourage you to learn about options in openess (there are a range of options available), because it is my sincere belief that a fully closed adoption makes it a lot harder on the adoptee in the long run.

As far as requirements go, for an application to Korea, we had to meet all the requirements for domestic adoption-- we had an agency homestudy with a social worker, background checks, medical checks, had to share our financial information, etc. It was all the same as when we applied for domestic adoption except for the added dimension of the INS fingerprinting-- since we are applying to bring a minor into this country from abroad we have to be approved by the federal government as well. If you are squeamish about sharing a lot of personal information with agency, state and federal personnel, then this process will really get to you!

As far as age is concerned, late thirties should be no problem-- I am forty and my husband is 41. Korea takes married couples up to age 45 (agencies will vary based on the length of time it takes to process applications-- ours only takes folks up to age 42). Other countries routinely take folks up into their 50's. But really, the best thing to do is to contact some agencies and find out about the programs they offer.

I am probably not as much help as you would have liked, but there is so much information out there! Good luck!

Kate

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Mon, 04-21-2003 - 11:02pm
Congratulations!!!!
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 9:59pm
Kate:

Hi there! What great news for you to "resurrect" yourself with!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited about your new son, Theo ... love the name (and I think it is wonderful to keep Joon-Hyung as his middle name to reflect his heritage & serve as a reminder of his birth family. Is Lily ready to be a big sis?

Congrats to you! You better start getting ready! Spring will fly by & the next thing you know, Theo will be here! Do you have to travel to get him, or will someone escort him to the USA? Will you get a picture soon? Keep us posted as you get updates. - Kelly (Mommy to Tucker, 19 mos old)

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 10:41pm
Hi Kelly!

You can see his photo (sleeping face!) in the photo pages for the ParentSoup Korean Adoption Board!

We actually have two photos taken the day after he was born (he is a little over a month old now) and we are expecting more soon! Travel is now optional to Korea-- it used to be that all Korean babies adopted in the US and Europe were escorted, now families may choose to travel. Right now, we are planning for at least one of us (hubby most likely) to travel to Korea so that we may meet the agency folks and get a chance to meet and speak with Theo's foster mother. BTW, she sounds wonderful! She has been fostering for 15 years and has a lot of experience loving babies!

Lily is thrilled about being a big sister and has his picture in her room, where she says good night to it at bedtime. She can't wait to hold him (mom will help)!

Your little guy must be getting very grown up now-- can you offer any tips on being mommy to a boy? I've done the girl thing for 4 years but the boy stuff is still a big mystery!

Kate