my adopted 10 yr. old is having problems dealing with his bio mom keeping her new baby
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|Sat, 11-03-2012 - 4:43am|
Hi, I'm new here and need some advice. I adopted my son at birth,with an open adoption. He was born drug addicted, and alcohol exposed, and is now 10 years old. I tried to involve the bio mom twice when he was 1 and then again at 2, but both times she couldn't handle being around a baby. She called recently and asked if she could see him because she is now sober (for 8 months) , pregneant and getting married. I told her it would be great if she would write him a letter and go from there, but she somehow called while I was busy and talked to my Son. Now he is very angry and sad, because in his words "why didn't she want me?", and "Will she give us this baby?". She asked if I would bring my Son to her wedding! He said "no way", and now she says that she is going to an attorney because it's an open adoption and she has rights. I don't want this to become ugly, but I don't want my Son hurt either. Am I doing the right thing in not allowing her to come to my home? Should I talk to my attorney? All I know is I don't want my Son hurt.