not sure where to go from here

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Registered: 10-11-2010
not sure where to go from here
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 12:46pm

hi, im 22 weeks pregnant with a little girl... im 24 and already have 2 kids and im pretty sure im going to give this baby up... i just dont know where to go from here.... any help ?

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Registered: 01-27-2008
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 2:04pm


I am so sorry you are going through this as I know it is a tough decision to make. I hope and pray you have love and support around you! I am on the opposite end of things from you and new to adoption myself. (I've been researching it for a year but have yet to move forward with it.) I know you can google agencies and call them for information, as many state they have information for moms like you. I would think there should be some local resources too though.

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Registered: 06-05-2008
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 3:58pm

Sorry you are in this spot... I would talk to an adoption agency in your state as well.

My story:  Tried for many years.   Did 1 insemination, 3 IVF, adopted our beautiful son in 2011.  Trying one last IVF cycle in April 2014             

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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 9:06pm

Hi and welcome to the group!

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Registered: 01-08-2002
Tue, 10-12-2010 - 9:59am

This must be an incredibly stressful and emotional time for you! Hang in there!

The phone book or Internet can help guide you to some adoption agencies in your area. Agencies have counselors on staff that will give you information about adoption and help you decide if adoption is the right choice for you and your baby. If you decide that adoption is not the right choice for you, the agency counselors can offer support and can often help you get in contact with support and services to help when your baby arrives.

Sending you many prayers and positive thoughts for the months ahead!

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Registered: 10-15-2010
Sat, 10-16-2010 - 12:17am

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I can only imagine what a difficult decision this must be for you. I hope you have the support of loved ones who can help you evaluate what’s best for you, your baby, and your children.

As an adoptive parent, I’d recommend that you talk with an adoption agency; a social worker will work with you to provide free counseling, resources, and guidance if you decide to move forward with an adoption plan. The more reputable adoption agencies are licensed by the Joint Council on International Children's Services (JCICS) and accredited by Council on Accreditation for Children and Family Services (COA).

With an open adoption, you’ll be able to select your baby’s adoptive family and stay connected with your child after adoption placement if both parties agree. For example, we send photos and email updates to our daughter’s birth family and communicate with them yearly. We’d welcome a more active relationship if they were more interested. Or, you can opt for a closed adoption.

I’d be happy to answer any questions you have about open adoption based on our experience. We are eager to adopt a second child, have completed our home study, and are licensed to adopt. If you decide to make an adoption plan, I hope you will consider our family. Here’s more information about us including our family video and website.

Phone: (773) 236-7803
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Good luck to you! We wish you the best. - Kip & Steve