Presents for Caseworkers and nurses???

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Presents for Caseworkers and nurses???
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 6:55pm
Need some input here.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 9:58pm
We did bring some cookies to the nurses station while in hospital with Patrick, but didn't do anything for case worker/social worker.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 11:13pm
We adopted our daughter from foster care so when it was finally finalized (when she was 18 months old) I had flowers sent to my caseworkers office I wrote on the card "Thank you for helping me find my family" and signed it with my daughters name. She loved it=)


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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 11:47am

Since I'm, ahem, "familiar" with how finalization will probably go for you - "R" doesn't usually go to finalization at court. The agency signs off on the adoption before it goes to court and they don't need to have a representative there, so it's just the lawyer and you at finalization.

We did see her later that day - since my in-laws flew in from New York and my mom came with us, I called and set up a tour of the agency for them afterwards, and then "R" met us downstairs and gave us the tour.

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Registered: 05-31-2006
Wed, 07-21-2010 - 12:16pm

We took food to the nurses: doughnuts, cookies, & fruit and then sent flowers to our original SW. The timing on the flowers was such that she was leaving to get married so it was a thank you/good bye. I did not send flowers to the second SW for completion of the second HS - she left the agency before we were matched.


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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 12:18pm

We did not give a gift to our caseworker. Maybe we should have?

As far as gifts for the nurses (I am a nurse!)...we LOVE food. Any and all kinds of food. Lol. We love it when parents bring us cookies.

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 12:21pm

We did not give our caseworker, or PBM's caseworker anything. To be honest, it didn't cross my mind. They did each ask for a Christmas card for their bulletin boards, which we did.

As a nurse, I can tell you thank yous are very few & far between, and any gesture from a card, to chocolate, to baked goods (from a store or home) is appreciated more than we/they can say. We used to try to set some aside for the other shifts, as well.

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Deb, mom to Evan, 9/2007, and Morgan, 7/29/10, waiting for end of revocation 8/9, and finalization 8/20.
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Registered: 01-26-2009
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 1:51pm

Hello and best wishes for the upcoming due date!

We didn't have much interaction with the nurses at all, so we didn't do anything except for the discharge evaluation we wrote really nice things for the ones we had received help from.

Our social worker is still a very big part of our life as a friend and helping us negotiate our level of openess with Sophia's birthmother, believe me, we appreciate her! We did flowers to her on Sophia's finalization day and we'll do flowers again this year on Sophia's birthday. Also, we're inviting her to our Famiversary to celebrate the 1 year finalization of our adoption.

We only met our lawyer 2 times, we didn't do anything for him...

I do work in a hospital though and nurses (and staff!) like sweet treats. Chocolates, cookies, anything edible! But really, personal notes do the trick and are lifelong momentos for them. Take some pretty stationary cards and write notes as you have time is my advice, and take some chocolate!

Best wishes!

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 2:25pm
I hadn't thought of anything for the social workers but that's a good idea, maybe flowers from both of us when she's home. I do plan to do something for her foster mom and I'm making a bunch of preemie hats for the NICU where she lived for her first 3 months. I haven't decided on what to do for the FM yet but it helps that I've stayed with them a couple of times so I know a little more about them, otherwise I'd probably just do flowers for her too.

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July 15, 2008 - Decided on Social Service Adoption then spent 3 months paying off all my bills
October 14, 2008 - Submitted agency application
January 20, 2009 - Homestudy home visit
March 5, 2009


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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 2:39pm
I don't think SW's are required to go to finalization in PA, but I think (hope!!) that ours will go to ours if she is free.
I really like our SW and was always very pro-active in asking for updates etc so we talked a lot. And then with Riley's case...well...we talked a LOT!! She has gone above and beyond and I will definitley get her something when we finalize!
I am not sure what...but something!!
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 4:17pm

Congratualations!!! Hope the next week or few days passes quickly