Since I'm, ahem, "familiar" with how finalization will probably go for you - "R" doesn't usually go to finalization at court. The agency signs off on the adoption before it goes to court and they don't need to have a representative there, so it's just the lawyer and you at finalization.
We did see her later that day - since my in-laws flew in from New York and my mom came with us, I called and set up a tour of the agency for them afterwards, and then "R" met us downstairs and gave us the tour.
We took food to the nurses: doughnuts, cookies, & fruit and then sent flowers to our original SW. The timing on the flowers was such that she was leaving to get married so it was a thank you/good bye. I did not send flowers to the second SW for completion of the second HS - she left the agency before we were matched.
We did not give a gift to our caseworker. Maybe we should have?
As far as gifts for the nurses (I am a nurse!)...we LOVE food. Any and all kinds of food. Lol. We love it when parents bring us cookies.
We did not give our caseworker, or PBM's caseworker anything. To be honest, it didn't cross my mind. They did each ask for a Christmas card for their bulletin boards, which we did.
As a nurse, I can tell you thank yous are very few & far between, and any gesture from a card, to chocolate, to baked goods (from a store or home) is appreciated more than we/they can say. We used to try to set some aside for the other shifts, as well.
Hello and best wishes for the upcoming due date!
We didn't have much interaction with the nurses at all, so we didn't do anything except for the discharge evaluation we wrote really nice things for the ones we had received help from.
Our social worker is still a very big part of our life as a friend and helping us negotiate our level of openess with Sophia's birthmother, believe me, we appreciate her! We did flowers to her on Sophia's finalization day and we'll do flowers again this year on Sophia's birthday. Also, we're inviting her to our Famiversary to celebrate the 1 year finalization of our adoption.
We only met our lawyer 2 times, we didn't do anything for him...
I do work in a hospital though and nurses (and staff!) like sweet treats. Chocolates, cookies, anything edible! But really, personal notes do the trick and are lifelong momentos for them. Take some pretty stationary cards and write notes as you have time is my advice, and take some chocolate!
July 15, 2008 - Decided on Social Service Adoption then spent 3 months paying off all my billsOctober 14, 2008 - Submitted agency application January 20, 2009 - Homestudy home visitMarch 5, 2009
July 15, 2008 - Decided on Social Servi
Congratualations!!! Hope the next week or few days passes quickly