sending pics and letters

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sending pics and letters
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 2:11pm
Denise's post about that she was only asked to send pics and updates the first year got me to thinking that maybe those here with open/semi open adoptions could benifit from this advise I got on a support board for bmoms And that is to send your childs bmom a letter and pics BEFORE Christmas (don't wait to include christmas pics include last years b-day pics) and BEFORE his B-day(this is when you send the christmas pics) as these tend to be the hardest days of the year for most b-moms and this would help her feel a little better to have these pictures on the days that will be so hard as it helps them see that they made the best choice for their child. And also don't forget to send a card on Mother's day. Thanks for letting me share this advise.

God bless,

Missy

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Thu, 04-24-2003 - 12:21pm
Missy thanks for bringing all the other special days to think of birthmoms. We do plan on sending up to date photos and notes on those hard days, mother's day especailly. We can do whatever we decide is best for us , it is just one of the agency's many requirements asked of the adoptive parents to send up to 1 year, if the adopted parents wish to send longer it is their choice. Thanks, Denise.
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Wed, 04-30-2003 - 8:42pm
This also goes for Mother's Day, which is only 2 weeks away!! This was posted on the Transracial Adoption Board on Parents Place. Hope you find it as helpful as I did:

mother's day is less than two weeks away. please remember your children's birthmothers. I found a neat site for birthmothers, but it is also good for us amoms to get the birthmother's perspective. First go to http://lifemothers.com/wish.html to see "what I wish my child's adoptive mother knew", then click on the link to go "back to lifemothers.com" for lots of other good info. Remember to send a card, or call or email, to your child's birthmother. (the day before Mother's Day has the designation of "Birthmother's Day") I just read that Mother's Day is second only to the child's birthday in pain for the birthmother. I also found a site that has some things designed for bmoms. Mostly just Tshirts & such, but they did have a nice print with a poem. that was at cafeshops.com/bmomstuff.

Sorry if I'm using up too much board space- I guess I'm antsy to get through this homestudy stage & be "out there" actively looking for our match. I think this is a way for me to feel like I'm "doing something" (even if it's not all that productive). :)

Blessings,

Lisa

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Wed, 04-30-2003 - 8:43pm
Woops - Lisa is the person who posted it on the Transracial Adoption board, I'm not Lisa. LOL! -Jo Anna