Wanting to get back into foster

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Wanting to get back into foster
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 9:34pm

Hi ladies.  I'm new to this part of the site, I'm usually reading or posting on TTC.  My husband and I are approved foster care parents through DHHR.  Last summer we took in two different kids, one was a 4 year old and the other was 2 1/2.  Each time they only stayed the weekend and went back to their mothers.  Although we had fun while they were here, it was so much harder than we thought it was going to be.  My husband and I felt a little sadness when they left, we also felt a huge relief.  Did any of you feel like that in the beginning?  Both times I cried everytime I went into the bathroom, wondering what I got myself into.  I didn't let them see it and even the 4 year old asked if she could stay with us forever, so to them we were very happy.  When does it stop feeling like you're babysitting and feel more like your child and that you're a family or does it ever feel like that?  I think I could've grown attached to the 2 1/2 year old, but in the moment I was scared to death and wanted DHHR to call and say he was going back to his mother.  My husband and I would love to have a family of our own, but I don't ever want to take a child in or even have a child of my own and regret it.  As of right now we're only on the adoption wait list with DHHR, but I've been talking to another agency that helps place foster children.  They get their kids through DHHR, they help when DHHR is overloaded or too busy to place a child.  They actually even do more to help you and are there 24/7 with support.  So, we've been thinking about getting back into it and taking in more kids in hopes to adopt one of them.  The guy through this agency said every family he's worked with that has wanted to adopt, has been able to.  I'm just afraid of getting a child for a long period of time and crying every day over it, I just want to know it gets easier having these kids in your life.  Thanks for any support you can give me.