Would it bother you.......

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Would it bother you.......
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 9:41pm

if you are not friends with the bios of your adopted children, and they had a pic of them on THEIR proflies?

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Registered: 07-23-2010
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:48pm
Like Facebook profile or something? Yes, I think I would be wondering what their motive would be? Especially if there is no contact for the boy's safety. Really odd.
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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 12:00am
If you are talking about some public forum, like Facebook, yes.

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 10:21am
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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 11:07am
My daughters birth mom has some pictures of the girls on MySpace. And I have to say it does not bother me that much. There is no personal information about where the girls live or anything that could be unsafe, just their pictures and a little comment about what they are doing in the picture. If you are worried about the boys safety maybe you should talk to a social worker.


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Registered: 09-23-2008
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 8:13am

Just because they 'didn't want them' (weren't able to/equipped to parent them) doesn't mean that they don't love them.

Honestly, it wouldn't bother me. If their names and ssns are changed, it wouldn't help anyone find them, so what's the harm?

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Registered: 12-13-2002
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:41am

No. It wouldn't bother me. I am not sure of the circumstances but even if there was neglect and abuse, they probably still love and miss them very much.
Maybe this is their way to grieve the loss as well?

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Registered: 10-12-2008
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 7:01pm
From a legal standpoint, I would believe that you would be within your rights to ask them to remove the pictures. YOU are now LEGALLY the parent and they no longer have any rights to that child.
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Registered: 12-04-2008
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 10:32pm

Hugs (((Beth))) -

I do believe what a previous poster stated, since you are now