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Registered: 05-24-2010
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 12:12pm

I want to start weaning my 11month old son but don’t know what to do now.

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Registered: 06-10-2008
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 10:10pm

Thanks for stopping by, Julie!

I know you didn't ask for this but just for the sake of lurkers reading (which there are always lots), here are some benefits to continuing to nurse past the 12 month mark: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html. I'm not going to debate your reasons for wanting to wean though.

The amount of solids you're giving seems appropriate for a baby who you're looking to wean at 12 months, although for someone looking to nurse longer we'd typically advise fewer solids at this point.

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Registered: 12-21-2009
Sun, 03-06-2011 - 8:26pm

Sure sounds like you have a lot on your plate! When thinking of weaning you need to think what things your baby will take as substitutes for all the breastfeeding is to the baby. So obviously the baby will need other foods and drinks but don’t forget other methods to settle and other ways to get his need for ‘mommy time’ fulfilled.

I think it’s normal to feel like if you could wean you would feel like the routine would be more manageable but be careful you may be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Often when babies wean they need even more intense time and attention from mom.

Having said that, in reality probably replacing the food and drink will be the easiest part of weaning, especially if the baby isn’t feeling ready.

As far as food and drink it’s often helpful if you can anticipate and feed the baby prior to the time when you would breastfeed and offer whatever the baby will drink. Usually under one year it’s recommended to replace breastfeeding with formula but talk to your baby’s doctor for recommendations about milk.

It’s a commonly held belief that babies’ have to drink some form of milk but they really don’t. Yes, milk is a great source of nutrition but they can get the same nutrition from other dairy sources such as cheese and yogurt if that is more acceptable to the baby and then drink other fluids if the baby won’t take formula or milk in a cup or bottle.

Some babies will accept a transitional object to help go to sleep without bf. You can use a blanket or stuffed toy. Have the baby cuddle the object when you bf then often the baby will take the object instead of mom to go to sleep. This technique does take some time though,

As far as breastfeeding, you can try to totally eliminate a feeding at a time or you can also work to delay and/or shorten some feedings. Usually, you can do a combination off all these techniques.

You may be able to delay feedings by offering other foods and cuddling without breastfeeding. You can certainly involve Dad to put the baby to sleep if he’s accepting of that and that can help eliminate some breastfeeding sessions.

You can shorten bf sessions a little at a time until the feeding is totally eliminated too. Sometimes you can bf and then make an excuse to stop, like I need to use the bathroom, and then leave the baby in his crib or if it’s an awake time, distract him when you are done in the bathroom so avoid resuming the feeding.

Don’t forget as you wean your lo may need even more mommy time so if at all possible try to take your time as well as you are able.

Also, think about ways to lower your load as weaning can be challenging for mom too. Look at ways to ask for and accept help or just cut back. No one will die from dust bunnies!

Best to you and congrats for giving your baby the best for so many months.


Kathy Kuhn IBCLC
iVillage lactation consultant

And Grammy to Brennan, Elias, Elianna, Tahlia, Makenna and Maura

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