Flailing nursling

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Flailing nursling
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 10:01pm
11.5 month old nursling is BFing about 6 to 8 times a day, has 2 small meals of fingerfoods and drinks a little water out of a sippy. Nursing can get active during the day with all sorts of positions and monkey business. That's not much of a problem. If something hurts, I end the session briefly and offer again soon and most offending behavior is well under control. The problem is in nursing to sleep - both bedtime and naptime. It starts out nice and calm but the closer she gets to dozing off, the more active she becomes: flailing, kicking, pinching, slapping. I don't think it's on purpose, since the worst is just before she unlatches, practically asleep. The method of stopping doesn't work. If I stop, it just means I have to start all over and she will still do her thing. She was sick about a week ago and she stopped falling asleep for DH and will only do so if nursing. I'm not looking to wean her anytime soon but I'm starting to dread naptime and bedtime. Any thoughts?
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Registered: 06-10-2008
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 10:04am
I'm going to be honest here, I'm not sure what to tell you here. Hopefully it's just a phase and she stops doing it soon?? Has anyone else seen this behavior with their nurslings?
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Registered: 07-15-2007
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 8:16am
Oh yeah!! Like hyper drive, right at bedtime. My only idea is my baby is on the verge of crawling and he just hasn't quite gotten it yet and its driving him nuts. He is 9 months. Could something like that be happening?

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Registered: 04-28-2011
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 9:35am
Ah, she's close to walking so maybe that's it. She doesn't seem frustrated with it during the day. She crawls lightning fast when she wants to and figured out that she can carry a toy in her mouth and crawl to her destination lol. She's also trying to give talking a shot, says dad and mum although not 100% consistently for DH and me but looks at either of our cats and says "didi". I guess it's all the milestones that are keeping her wired. With a couple of nursings overnight she's usually down 7pm to 6:30 am and consistently takes one nap of 1 to 1.5 hours so I doubt she's overtired. I tried to get an afternoon nap in there but she isn't receptive. I worry that she's overtired but doesn't act like she is except for crazy nursing to sleep episodes. Does it sound like she's sleeping enough? She will be 1 on the 30th.
Thanks for weighing in.
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Registered: 10-27-2006
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 2:49pm
Sounds like plenty of sleep. My DS is active like that sometimes. I sort of hold him down so he can't roll over while latched on. Not much more to do than ride out the phase, I think.
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Registered: 04-28-2011
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 1:33pm
Quick update: she has been less combative lately at naptime and bedtime, sometimes she's even been calm and pleasant. Maybe it's a phase she went through, maybe the fresh air has been doing her good (we had record highs in southern Ontario lately and have been going to parks almost daily). Thank you for the reassurance and support.
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Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 10:18pm

Thanks for coming back. It is nice to know how you got on.

I wonder if she was feeling the heat a bit, and reacting to the body warmth of physical closeness as she fell asleep? I live in a very hot climate, and sometimes in summer, it would be so hot, I would bathe the baby and myself, to cool down, and lie so we were not snuggled closely, to nurse. Otherwise the baby could get too hot and uncomfortable to settle well.

Teresa