Weaning advice

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Weaning advice
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Fri, 11-19-2010 - 11:51pm

I have been BFing for 8 months. My baby took a bottle well for about 5 months (in fact for awhile she prefered it!) but now refuses. This is fine for now because I stay home with her and can BF any time she needs to. However, I am ready to start weaning for a variety of reasons but mainly because we will be trying IVF again in the spring and I need to be completely done BFing for at least 2 months prior.

My question is, how do I start weaning if she won't take a bottle? We have tried sippy cups a few times and she won't do that either. I know the advice is to try and get baby off of the bottle by 1 year. Should I focus on getting her to try to take a bottle again (only to try to get her off of it in 4 months) or should I just focus on the cup/suppy cup instead? Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you in advance!

 

&nb
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Registered: 04-29-2008
In reply to: trr16
Sat, 11-20-2010 - 12:11am

Another question....I really want to wean as slowly as possible, but still be finished by March. Any thoughts on how to best make a plan for that? For now I think I want to just focus on trying to get her to either take a bottle or sippy cup/cup while still BFing on demand. My plan is to start weaning seriously after Christmas. Is 3 months enough time for the process?

I'm so confused and just don't really know where to begin or how to go about this with her bottle refusal.

 

&nb
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Registered: 05-20-2008
In reply to: trr16
Sat, 11-20-2010 - 4:17am

May I ask what the concerns your IVF doctor has

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Registered: 06-10-2008
In reply to: trr16
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 3:31pm

I'm not an expert on IVF and fertility treatments so I can't be certain as to whether you absolutely need to be weaned to pursue IVF or not. If you know specific meds they're likely to start you on, we'd be happy to look them up in Hale's "Medication and Mother's Milk" so you can have all the information you need about your need to wean.

If you do indeed need to wean, yes, you'll need to continue to gently offer the bottle or sippy while continuing to nurse on demand. Just to confirm, when you're offering the bottle or sippy, are you offering expressed breastmilk or formula? Have you tried different temperatures? Some babies prefer expressed breastmilk nice and warm while others associated warm milk with Mom and out of a bottle, they prefer cold. I'd also suggest trying a straw cup, perhaps starting with just squirting the milk from a straw into her mouth as a first step.

Good luck and keep us posted!

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Registered: 04-29-2008
In reply to: trr16
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 7:01pm

Thank you for the replies!

Our RE said it isn't "required" that I stop BFing, but......he does believe (and many studies I've read show) that there

 

&nb
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Registered: 05-20-2008
In reply to: trr16
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 2:40am

If I understand you correctly, the main concern is trying the IVF treatments without having gotten your period back yet and that if you did you get your period back then you could try the IVF treatments without needing to wean and still have a good chance of success with concieving? If that is indeed the case and your willing start IVF treatments if you can get your period back then I would focus in maybe simply cutting back on nursing and hopefully your period will return. You don't need to comleltely wean to get your period back in most cases This would have the atvantage of still being able to give contnued benefits of BF'ing while not significantly impacting your IVF success chances. Since, correct me if I'm wrong, i get the impression your only reluctantly choosing to wean and would otherwise love to continue BF'ing this might be a workable compromise. Of course if you do decide to stick with weaning then that's of course your choice.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
In reply to: trr16
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 7:25am

At the age of your baby, and given the reluctance she has to take a bottle, I would start letting her have small amounts by sippy cup, or straw cup or even a small open cup that you hold.

Bottles are not recommended after the age of 1 or so anyway, as they are not good

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Registered: 04-29-2008
In reply to: trr16
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 6:08pm

I would like to try just cutting back, but I'm not sure how to even do that if she won't take a bottle or cup. That is my main frustration. If I can cut back a little, get my cycles going again, then I would be in a better place to start planning the IVF. I just don't know how to even start to cut back.

I will keep working on the sippy cup. We tried it with a different kind of juice and she took a few tiny sips. But that's better than what we

 

&nb
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Registered: 01-12-2006
In reply to: trr16
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 7:19pm
Getting ready to run out, but here are a few quick thoughts:

Remind me how often you are nursing right now to begin with. What does the day look like? When are you nursing? Etc.

I know with both my girls that I started offering water in sippy cups while we were on the go and during table meals. She played with it at mealtime but would drink some when we were on the go. I nursed in public regularly, but still it was easier to take a drink of water quickly and go than stop and get situated for nursing. Also, being around other kids that drink out of cups can encourage cup drinking in their presence.

Part of her cup problem may be that she doesn't know how to drink from them. We started w/ avent sippy cups but removed the spill proof valves so the liquid just poured out when she tipped out ... but it helped her get the concept of the cup. When she understood how it was supposed to work, I put the valve back in. When she tipped it and the liquid didn't pour in her mouth so she sucked on it and of course it worked for her.

Also, try different things that are fun. My youngest got a kick out of drinking water out of the little half and half containers at restaurants. She just thought it was fun. Also, we did the straw thing where you put your finger on top to hold the water in and then let the water drip into their mouths. It made straws fun. So they played with them. Then they figured out how to use a straw ... and then I could use straw cups.

It really seemed to click more around 1 year for both girls. Prior to that it was just fun for them. But at one year, I stopped pumping and would leave cow's milk with their grandmother (they were usually there once a week for a few hours). Everything was just a slow natural transition.

I know you have a specific situations you're trying to deal with, but in my experience everything is easier when the child is at least open to it.

Might give it a month ...
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Registered: 02-26-2004
In reply to: trr16
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 3:13pm

My DD was an IVF baby and when we went back to try again my RE didn't have a problem if I was still BF as long as I was having regular cycles.

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-10-2008
In reply to: trr16
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 10:18pm
I've also heard good things about the Nuby soft spout cups. They're pretty squishy and they seem to be easier for some kids to get used to.
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