Can't fall asleep without breast :)

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Can't fall asleep without breast :)
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Fri, 03-13-2009 - 7:20pm

Hello!


My LO is now 7 months old and used to take paci. to help fall asleep. She decided one day she doesn't want to take it (fine by me), but now she will only fall asleep by breastfeeding. We are having nap issues (fights them) and falling asleep at night. She sleeps 8-9 hours at night without waking (when she does fall asleep). My question? I don't mind that she uses my breast as an association with sleep,but I would like to be able to have her fall asleep at some point by other methods (or by herself). (Otherwise I'll need to be around for every nap and bedtime which is not realistic.)


I will not use CIO and have recently purchased "NO Cry Sleep Solution". She doesn't like swing, swaddling or sling. She won't take paci. Any solutions/thoughts/ideas until I get the book would be great!!

Thanks so much!:)

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Fri, 03-13-2009 - 8:08pm

About to run out the door - this has to be REAL quick.


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Fri, 03-13-2009 - 9:47pm

Thanks Carol!


Your input and the article definetly put my mind at ease! I was worried that as long as she did this there would be no way that she would sleep.....I love your humor about not having to nurse your LO in college :)
So what happens if I am not here for her bedtime or afternoon nap? Can my DH find a different way to get her to sleep or what will happen in this scenario?


Thanks again!

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Fri, 03-13-2009 - 10:11pm

Hi Kari-


Has DH tried to get baby down when you're gone? When I'm around, Seph needs me to go to sleep. But, my mom, MIL, and DH don't have any issues when I'm gone.


Have you tried different pacis? We had to try a TON with both of our girls before finding one they would take.



 

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Fri, 03-13-2009 - 11:19pm

In our case,


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Sat, 03-14-2009 - 10:05am

Thanks Carol and Theresa,


I've never been gone for DH to put Tori to sleep. I may have to try to see if he can get her to sleep without me here! Would it only work if I was out of the house? As for paci., Tori was stuck on her NICU paci. so I stocked up on them. She doesn't take that one anymore...we've tried three other kinds. With all paci.'s she either won't let us put it in her mouth, or she pulls it out and chews on it.


Thanks again for the reassurance! Last night she started screaming after trying to BF her to sleep for over 1.5 hours. My DH bicycled her legs and I stroked her head and she feel asleep instantly....so I guess she can fall asleep other ways. :)

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Sat, 03-14-2009 - 11:53am
For me most of the time if I was in the house, the boys wanted me to put them down.


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Sun, 03-15-2009 - 6:46am

At this age, your baby will probably know you are in the house and want to nurse to sleep if you are there. So if you are actually gone (after nursing first) and there is no way to nurse to sleep, then your DH can try to put baby down.

Usually, they can develop some other routine, like lying down, cuddling, stroking or rocking.

My DH actually used to stroke our babies on a spot at the base of the neck, while he held them over his shoulder and they would relax so well and nod off. He would walk around the block sometimes, with them, and stroke that special spot, and get home and just lie them down asleep! Magic!

Actually, it is a great way for you DH to get involved with the baby.

Teresa

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Wed, 03-18-2009 - 12:30pm

Thank you all for the advice and encouragement! I've started using my DH more when she wakes up after snoozing for 20 min. so that she is familar with him being part of sleep time. He is very active in our nightime routine so that helps some!


I now am totally accepting with the fact that right now my LO needs to nurse to sleep :) I will enjoy it! Now I have another problem with her naps/bedtime. I will not use CIO and am having a hard time finding supports for this. My DH and mom are very supportive, but I live far from my parents. All my friends use CIO so I can't go to them for support or advice. I know that many here are advocates for more gentle ways to help baby sleep.....so if I could get some advice:


I am reading No Cry Sleep Solution but am having a hard time with a few things. She is not a napper and we are trying for 2 naps a day. She will often wake up after 20 minutes of sleeping..do I go in and nurse her again to sleep and continue to do so when she wakes up again in 20 min? How many times do

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Wed, 03-18-2009 - 1:00pm

she sleeps 8-9 hours straight


WOW!!!!! I would LOVE that.


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Thu, 03-19-2009 - 11:54am

Carol,


I for surely love the night time sleeps.....My problem is that she is not getting enough sleep in total so is overtired and a bear all day. ALthough she is sleeping 8-9 hours at night, that is not enough in the 24 hour span. :) I am continuing to work with my sleep plan from No Cry Sleep Solution

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