Day 6 of Total Nursing Strike--help

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Day 6 of Total Nursing Strike--help
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Sun, 11-29-2009 - 8:48am
My baby is 11 months old as of 11/23/09. On 11/23 he nursed fine before and after I went to work, but I noticed he was teething and was uncomfortable. On 11/24/09 he nursed some on one side and then would not nurse on the other side. After work he would not nurse at all. The next day he nursed a little on both sides in the morning and would not nurse the rest of the day no matter what I tried. On Thanksgiving morning he nursed about 3 minutes from one side and then pulled away as if in pain. He has not nursed since. Every time I try to get him in a nursing position he turns his head and cries and will not latch on at all. I've tried being naked with him, a warm bath, treating his teething pain with every known remedy and nothing has helped. I am so upset. I keep getting clogged ducts despite the fact that I am pumping as often as we are having to give him a bottle. He is taking a bottle ok, but more slowly than he used to. Is there any hope? I am just so sad about this, because I was going to let him self-wean and I imagined it would happen gradually as opposed to abruptly like this.
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Registered: 07-25-2006
Sun, 11-29-2009 - 8:19pm

Hi Janet-


((HUGS)) to you, mama! I imagine that would be terribly frustrating! When did you start doing the baths, etc?


Unfortunately, you're doing all of the right things at this point!! Keep pumping to keep your supply up, and offer the breast frequently. How many solids is baby getting? We often see one-year (ish) olds getting more solids than they should if mom is planning on nursing past a year. Perhaps cutting back on the solids would help?


http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/baby/back-to-breast.html#strike


HANG IN THERE and keep us posted!

 

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 8:16pm
Thanks for your reply. He is only eating 2 meals a day and rarely gets a snack. He has been on this amount of solids for past 2 months, so I really don't think it is that. He has been drinking 30 oz of EBM a day since this strike began. We went to the doctor today who confirmed his ears are fine, but thinks he might be getting 2 molars which could cause extra mouth pain. he is also getting 2 front teeth (one top and one bottom) but the doctor did not think this alone would contribute to his absolute refusal. I only did the bath thing once b/c need my husband to do it, but it was so unsuccessful it made me feel more dejected. Tonight I have offered a lot and done skin to skin, but nothing. I am so upset.
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Registered: 01-22-2006
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 9:15pm

I don't know if you are still in the midst of the strike, but wanted to share my support. I just went through the exact same thing with my 12 month old (was 11 months old at the time). It is so stressful.


Our strike lasted just about 1 week and ended as abruptly as it started. It turned out he was getting a molar and I did not realize that was the source. As soon as that silly tooth came in, he was back on.


The approach I took was to offer each feeding even though he reacted as your son seems to be doing. I work so during the week I only offered morning and night. One night, I offered and he just latched on as if nothing had happened.


It was really depressing and stressful and I thought our great nursing was just over when it had been so positive. It was hard not to take the rejection personally and it was very sad for me. But now we are back on track like we never hit a bump, so I hope you find the same happy ending.


Hang in there!


Cathy

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Sat, 12-05-2009 - 5:10pm

Cathy,
Thanks for the reply. Today is day 11 and things are no better. I can tell that his teeth are still bothering him, so I am hanging on to a little bit of hope. It did make me feel more hopeful, too, to hear your story. This is terrible! I really hope that in the next few days it will resolve (if it is going to).

Janet


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Registered: 01-22-2006
Sat, 12-05-2009 - 9:00pm

Hang in there!


If you think his teeth are still bothering him, I would hold out a lot of hope. That sounds like a likely culprit, and if it is still hurting him, it is likely still the cause. If it is a molar, it can take a few weeks to come through and often comes through in parts.


Keep offering and acting as low key about it as you can on the outside (while totally stressing on the inside!). That was my hardest part- not pressuring him or acting too stressed every time he refused. It was so frustrating.


I do hope for you he snaps out of his nursing funk.


Good luck!


Cathy

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Registered: 07-25-2006
Sun, 12-06-2009 - 9:49am

Any improvement yet, mama? Those darn teeth can really do a number on the babies :(


Have you tried any teething tablets yet? Lots of mamas have good luck with those! Here are some other teething remedies: http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/teething.html

 

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 9:20pm
Still no luck, but his teeth are still hurting. I feel like hope is being lost every day that he won't nurse. I was last able to trick him into nursing 3 mornings ago when he was still asleep. Today it didn't work--he woke up and refused (but calmly). Tomorrow it will be 2 weeks. I am so sad, but also so frustrated. I just wish I knew whether this was it, or if I should still hope. I told myself I would wait until his teeth seemed ok before giving up, but as they continue to bother him (but not as much) I don't know how long this will be. I continue to get clogged ducts and pumping this much is so hard. I also feel overwhelmed and sad imagining how I will wean myself from the pump--I know it is going to be awful. Thanks for checking in.

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Registered: 01-29-2009
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 9:23pm
oh, and teething tablets didn't help at all.

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