The Distractable Nurser (8 mo. old)
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|Thu, 10-29-2009 - 10:35am|
Hi ladies, I'm hoping to find some BTDT advice, or just some plain ole encouragement to hang in there! Here's what we're dealing with...
I have gotten myself so worked up recently about Rheanna's nursing habits. Let me give you some background, she has always been a distracted nurser, even from a very young age. She hated for me to talk (or anyone else really) while she nursed, looking up at me with disgust like 'Mommy, why would you be speaking right now, I'm busy' -- which only progressed into popping off the breast at any sound (or something she thought she heard), god forbid my husband or dog walk in the room, it's all bets off! We went through a nursing strike and bottle preference when I first went back to work at 11 weeks and I had to completely reteach her to latch, suck vigorously, etc. It was fun to say the least, but that gives you an idea of how committed I am to continuing to breastfeed and pumping at work at least up until the first year.
It has just been so hard recently, I can't get her to nurse at all during the day hours, which means on the weekends no nursing between 9am and 9pm and on weekdays, no nursing at all after I get home from work, I have to wake her up when I go to bed around 9/10pm for a dream feed, and then she'll nurse in the mornings just fine. It's so bizarre, it's not that she won't latch, she will, but she just won't suck vigorously enough for a let down. It's driving me crazy and stressing me out considerably. I'm going to try a 'nursing necklace' in hopes that helps her concentrate. She has also taken to plucking, tugging and flicking my nipple, the one that she should be nursing from! LOL. It's such an interesting journey, but something I'm not willing to give up on. I guess if all else fails, I can supplement with solids and bottles during the weekdays and on the weekends just nurse her at night, solids during the day.
Oh and to clarify, when I say 'no nursing' this is not without me trying, I put her to the breast OFTEN, and as I mentioned before, she will suckle but just won't actually draw the milk down to eat! I try to keep every experience positive, not forcing her...I know all the tricks from our previous nursing strike. That time she wouldn't even nurse at night, now she is fine at night, just during the day/waking hours...I'm really at a loss.
I read about self weaning and know it's rare, especially as young as she is, but I really think she's over milk during the day, she's just too busy. Even her bottles she is less interested in...she didn't take her third bottle yesterday for my mom and only drank half of one of the other two. Daycare always gets it in, b/c I'm sure they force it down, whereas my mom won't. She has always taken in less milk than than most infants, averaging 20-25 oz a day, now it's more like 20 consistently.