I don't know what to do

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Registered: 12-02-2008
I don't know what to do
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Tue, 06-16-2009 - 6:43am
I don't know wheere to begin but I will try. 2 wks ago I pp @ WP and after giving me a great advise and a wonderful support Spenser told me I should pp here as well. So here we go. My ds is 7.5 months and 2 wks ago we took him to his pedi for pink eye and cold symptoms ( 1st week day care). we found out that he has lost 5 oz and pedi told us to keep a log of his intake. we went back yesterday for his 2 wks wt check and he has only gained 4 oz so after reviewing his intake log pedi told us dh is not getting enough calories and advised us to add veg oil to his food. The problem is dh hates solids. he did ok in the begining. i was giving him tbs of fruit or veggie. but since he got sick he pushes any solid that I try to give him. BTW he is 271/2 inches and his wt is 16.71bs his birth wt was 7.2lbs.
when I am at work he has been taking 3-4 bottles of 40z ebm and @ 6:30 pm I nurse when he is not distracted or give him 4oz ebm and then nurse 3-4 times trough out the night. he used to sttn but not any more. I know u want me to get to the point. my question is what can I do to increase his intake. right now I am feeling like the worst mom on earth. Please help me help my ds. I don't even get 3 hrs of sleep at night. Even when he is sleeping I can't sleep I am so tired and frustrated. Thank you for taking the time to read and for your help.
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Registered: 04-13-2008
Tue, 06-16-2009 - 8:39am

If your baby has been so sick firstly it is no wonder the weight gain has not been good.

It is also no wonder that all he wants is breastmilk. Babies are often like that when they are sick, and it is better for them in so many ways if they will have that rather than not much at all.

Solids are not necessarily the best thing if your baby needs to gain lots of weight, as they do not have as many calories as breastmilk. Your baby seems to be having plenty of breastmilk. When he is well again, try the solids again, after breastfeeding, and in small amounts.

The issue of you not getting a lot of sleep is another thing itself.

Have you tried co-sleeping? or having his cot near your bed, so you can pick him up and nurse while barely waking up yourself? or even having your partner bring him to you in bed to nurse?

Sttn can very as you have found, and a baby who used to do it can stop doing it for various reasons. When you are working, some of it may even just be wanting some closeness and connection with you again. After all, you are his one and only, his mum!

Hey you are definitely not the worst mum on earth. Motherhood is a difficult job and you are doing so well to continue bf through work and all.

Teresa

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Registered: 05-03-2004
Tue, 06-16-2009 - 11:58am

NAK


Were weights all taken on the EXACT same scale with a naked baby?


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Registered: 12-02-2008
Tue, 06-16-2009 - 8:49pm
Thank you so much for all the info. yes he was weighed on the same scale with out any clothing. He gets b/n 22oz-26oz bottle/24hrs and bf 3-4 times. He has plenty of wet diapers and he is pretty energetic.
his pedi said he should gain at least 1 lb a month. I don't really know how he figured out the calories that was really confusing to me. btw he told me today that I should try to fortify his bm with formula powder to make it more concentrated but I respectfully declined. (I work in the same hospital with his pedi). I couldn't co sleep because my 3yo refused to sleep in her room so our bed is no longer ours.but his crib is in our room. The problem is once I am awake it takes me forever to fall a sleep again. I am also stressed out. Again thank you so much for all your support
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-17-2009 - 12:30pm

I agree that baby being sick may mess with the rate of gain, and the desire to eat.

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Registered: 07-25-2006
Wed, 06-17-2009 - 1:39pm

The ped said baby is to be gaining a pound a month at this point? No way in heck!! That would be expected before 6 months, but not after. After 6

 

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Wed, 06-17-2009 - 7:51pm

I will definitely try to rearrange the rooms this weekend. That actually sounds great. unfortunately they don't have the digital scale they still use the old weighed ones. today he took 15 oz while I was @work and I BF until he fell a sleep.
BTW 5 of my co-workers were pregnant around the same time and most of them only bf for 6wks 2 of them made it to 12 wks. Their kids are much larger than mine. The youngest one is only 4months old and he already weighs 17 lbs. Every time we compare notes about our babies it makes me feel as if I am not doing my job as a mom. Thanks to you guys I am well informed now and I will try to be less crazy

Thanks again

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-17-2009 - 8:32pm

They may need to recalibrate the scale.


FWIW, my own dd was a year old and weighed 18 pounds.

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Registered: 01-12-2006
Wed, 06-17-2009 - 8:40pm

Just wanted to give you a few more small, healthy babies to compare to:


I was 18 lbs at 12 mos.


My 1st DD was 17 lbs, 5 oz at 12 mos and 20 lbs, 5 oz at 2 years.


My 2nd DD was 15 lbs, 10 oz at 12 mos and 19 lbs, 4 oz at 2 years.


Now my 2nd DD does actually have some issues w/ food and has seen a speech path to help w/ that, although I'm not convinced that the eating problems

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Registered: 05-03-2004
Thu, 06-18-2009 - 8:30pm

NAK


Definitely do NOT compare a BF baby weight to a FF baby weight gain.


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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 6:35am
Thank you Carol. he definitely is meeting his developmental milestones. It also makes sense. While I can smell food and gain wt :) my husband is very thin so he may have inherited dad's good genes. Again thank you for making me feel I do indeed deserve to be a mom.
Have a wonderful day