I think I want to wean. Can you help?

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I think I want to wean. Can you help?
Thu, 10-22-2009 - 10:25pm

Okay, I'm not sure if this is really what I want to do, or if my DD is even ready for it, but many signs point to the fact that she's ready, but her lack of solid/fluid intake other than BM has me worried.

I used to be able to nurse her to sleep for naps, and that doesn't happen anymore - so I need a new nap trick.

She's much more active during the day, so I've tried pulling her away, going someplace quiet and nursing and that only lasts a few minutes. She writhes around, twists and turns, sits up, smiles and does the "all done" sign.

The only time she really seems to want to nurse is right before bed and in the middle of the night and early morning when we co sleep (she starts the night off in her crib).

But, with a daily solid schedule of 3 mini cubes of fruit, 1 slice of cheese, 1 egg yolk, 1 oz cow's milk, I can't see her not having BM as her main source of nutrition.

I think I am ready to just have to do nighttime nursings and I do think she'd go along with this without any fuss!! Of course if she wasn't ready, I would still nurse her during the day.

I guess I'm wondering what would be the best way to approach this. Should I just try one day to see if I can go from nursing in the morning to nursing before bed with no nursing in between? Maybe she'll be more interested in solids? I don't want her to get dehydrated or anything.

Please help if you can.
Thanks so much.
Sarah, mom to Lilah 13 months.

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Sat, 10-24-2009 - 10:57pm
Heather, for you as well as lurkers, I just want to mention that we do not recommend weaning "cold turkey" for mom or for baby as it can be problematic and stressful. For mom problems with cold turkey can include; plugged ducts, mastits, or even a breast abscess (YIKES!). Additionally hormonal fluctuations can cause mood swings and even depression.

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Sat, 10-24-2009 - 3:10pm

I wouldn't wean her, unless that's really what you want to do? You can still nurse her the few times a day that she wants to, or try starting formula during the day, and if she likes it, then just stop cold turkey. She most likely won't have a problem with it. My son didn't, but he was 11 months old.


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Registered: 12-17-2007
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 3:07pm

Kathy already gave you some great info.

I think your thought to just partial weaning (especially through the cold and flu season) and keeping some sessions is a sound one. Remember you can always add sessions back in. I know you said you are not sure that baby is ready to wean, keep in mind that the natural age of weaning is usually between the ages of 2 and 4, so it is unlikely that baby is ready to completely wean.

THe acrobatic nursing is really common around this age - both my older 2 boys went through it and I know it can be frustrating. Also the distractibility is common at this age. I would just offer often and sometimes they would nurse quickly (older babies can get a lot in a short time) and be off again and other times it would be longer. Have you seen this about toddler nursing? http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/toddlernursing.html

I know one book Paula always recommended was "My Child Won't Eat! How To Prevent and Solve The Problem" by Carlos Gonzalez MD. You might want to see if your local library or LLL has a copy you can borrow.

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Fri, 10-23-2009 - 12:54pm

You can always try the ‘tried and true’ don’t offer don’t refuse method and see what she does. Basically that method is exactly what it says. Don’t offer the breast but when she asks go ahead and bf her.