Night weaning toddler -- HELP!

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Night weaning toddler -- HELP!
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Fri, 10-09-2009 - 2:17pm

Hi-


I have not been on in awhile, but my son is now 18 months and still nursing strong!


I really need to start night weaning him and am hoping you all have some advice.


I know he is capable of STTN because I travel a lot on business and when I do, he sleeps thru, or wakes once for a drink of water and then goes back down quickly. I work FT so he does not nurse during the day, but he has not for several months now so that is nothing new. He nurses when I see him in the late afternoon, and then whenever he wants between then and bedtime, which is seldom, if at all. He drinks milk before bed while we read stories (this has been our routine since he turned one and started on milk), and then sometimes he nurses and sometimes he doesn't -- but he does not nurse to sleep anymore and has not for several months.


I have tried night weaning this week because he was waking like every half hour. We co-sleep so I am trying to not stay as near him, but he is a big cuddler! He wants to sleep pressed right up against me, or on top of me!, the whole night. He will contort his body so that he is somehow up against me but reaching out to touch DH most of the night. He moves in his sleep to do this, no matter how many times I move away or turn over. This last week has been toturous. He wakes to nurse and I try to tell him we will when the sun comes up, or nummies went night-night... whatever... but he is relentless. He sobs and screams and climbs all over me to cuddle. He will settle for a minute or 2 and I will think he is falling asleep but then he will cry out again. I hate torturing him! I knew this would be rough, but this is beyond difficult.


I have tried to set a limit that he can go 6-8 hours without nursing, which I know he can because he does it all day and the nights I am not home. My supply is down to basically nothing so it is more of a comfort thing (I used to pump a couple of oz from each side, now I pump less than 1/2 oz TOTAL even after not nursing/pumping in several hours). He won;t take EBM at all so there is no point to pump and it is difficult at work.


Does anyone have any advice? Should I stop for awhile and try again later? Should I stick it out? Any other tips?


DH is not patient and gets upset every time he wakes up. He says "go to sleep" in a frustrated tone, which does not help, and he is not sympathetic to DS's need to be held, cuddled at night... so I am going this alone.


Any advice, tips, feedback are appreciated!


Sorry for the long post:)


-kara

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 2:46pm


If a toddler is ready for weaning from a certain feeding or time frame of feedings they usually give it up pretty easily. It usually doesn’t feel ‘beyond difficult’.


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Registered: 08-13-2007
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 3:31pm

Thanks Kathy!


I have been thinking today that maybe he is not ready to give it up, and I should keep going for awhile. The dentist scared us by his teeth decay talk, but the more I read there is no evidence of BM causing it anyway.


I don;t think I am ready to have him sleep elsewhere -- and since he hates his crib, and the thought of him in a bed makes me nervous -- I am not ready to give up my little cuddle bug at night. He keeps me warm!


I think I am going to back off for awhile and see if he falls into it naturally. Is it true that the night-time nursing sessions are generally the last to go? It would make sense then that he is trying to hold onto them if he is not ready to quit yet.


DH said that when I have not been here, he has not woken up that often, but when he did he would give him water, and then give him his pacifier back. He takes the pacifier from me when we put him down for the first time, but he will never take it from me in the middle of the night.


Thanks for responding... I think maybe he is not ready and I should back off for awhile and see how he does with it later.


:)kara

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Fri, 10-09-2009 - 5:08pm
Night time bf are often the last to go but not always. As with anything baby related there is lots of variety.