SO many issues, where do I begin?
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|Mon, 02-08-2010 - 9:45am|
I apologize in advance for this being so long and I hope someone can make it through this and offer some much needed advice/suggestions.
I posted a few weeks ago about moving to a new state and a 2 bedroom (from our former small 1 bedroom). I got lots of tips on making sure I didn't make any changes too quickly, suggestions for night weaning, suggestions for a transitional item, etc, and I appreciate all the advice, BUT...things are worse than ever.
First of all, my DD LOVES her new house. She loves the carpeted floors, loves playing in her new bedroom, etc. She has adjusted so well! And, just like before, she could go to sleep in her crib for 2-3 hours, wake up and either have to nurse back to sleep or just come into bed with us in our room. Night before last she made it 5 1/2 hours and I thought FINALLY, after 17 months, she's going to sleep! Well, that was a fluke as last night she barely made it 2 again. 5 1/2 was her longest stretch ever! Usually it's 2-3 at most. DH tries to go in and comfort her, but she just continues wailing and staring at the door (waiting for me to take over). All she wants is to nurse. I've tried telling her "mama milk later" and then putting her back in the crib, but that doesn't work. I don't want to rock her to sleep either because that will just create yet another sleep crutch! I've tried SO many transitional items, pacifiers, sippy cups, etc. to no avail. During the day, saying "mama milk later" tends to work, but not at night. I tank her up during the day. She asks to nurse at least every 2 hours, sometimes more!! I've tried feeding her more solids, less solids, etc. (Solids is a whole other issue since she barely eats anything!!! Another stress).
I'm going a little crazy and I think my DH is too. Starting to resent the fact that she's completely attached to me, doesn't seem at all attached to him and she doesn't sleep STILL making it hard for us to have any alone time.
I need DD to sleep. I need her to sleep in her own room. I need to know what to do to get her there. DH just started a new job and I know all about dads playing a part in taking over night calls and having her cry and wail in his arms, BUT he will be working 12 hour (overnight) shifts and sometimes 24 hour shifts, so that's not going to work. I NEED to be able to do this.
Not letting her cry it out early on AND bringing her into our bed was my mistake and now we're dealing with a 17 month old who cannot sleep more than 3 hours and who cannot sleep in her own bed. I don't want a resentful husband and I don't want to resent my baby.
Sarah (mom to LD 17 months)
Edited 2/8/2010 12:35 pm ET by bklynteach