Starting Chemo--Milk Bank? Formula?

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Starting Chemo--Milk Bank? Formula?
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Thu, 10-08-2009 - 11:42am

Well, this is an issue I hoped I would never have to worry about again, but here it is. I was diagnosed 5 years ago with brain cancer, which stopped my breastfeeding relationship with my daughter at 7 1/2 months. I was determined to breastfeed my son for at least a year.

Well, yesterday I had an MRI and they discovered that my cancer is once again growing and that I will need to start chemo again. My son has never even had a bottle and now I need to try to deal with that and figure out what else to do. i would love to continue him on breastmilk, but that is unfortunately out of the question with chemo. Is there somewhere I can buy breastmilk? A milk bank? Or do I just need to start him on formula? I really didn't want to give him any formula at all. I am so disappointed!

Any tips on getting him to take a bottle? This is all so overwhelming...

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 12:55pm

((((HUGS))))) I am so sorry that the cancer is growing.

Personally at 7 months I would skip bottles. None of my 3 boys ever had bottles, we went straight to cups. Have you introduced a cup of EBM yet? Tips on introducing a cup: http://www.mother-2-mother.com/cups-older.htm

How long do you have until you start Chemo?

A milk bank is an option. Depending on if your insurance company will cover it thought, it may be expensive. Another option is to find a private donor through milkshare.com or http://www.breastmilkdonations.com/ (I know I myself have donated through these types of programs and we have several other moms that have as well). Typically all you would need to pay is the shipping of the milk to you and for collection supplies (BM freezer bags).

It is somewhat unlikely that DS would take right to formula at this age. IT tastes and smells YUCKY when compared to BM. I would definitly look into donor milk - either through a milk bank or from a donor.



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Registered: 12-20-2007
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 2:02pm
You might aso want to give your local La Leche League a visit. If someone in your situation were to come to any of the two groups I've been a part of, they'd have had milk in a heartbeat! In fact, one of the moms I know had over 1000 oz in her freezers in August, just in case, and was bemoaning the fact that she wished she knew someone locally that needed milk so she could get it out. :)

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Registered: 07-25-2006
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 9:30pm

((HUGS)) mama! The PPs gave you great info. Did someone mention skipping the bottle completely? (Sorry, I just skimmed the other posts to make sure they discussed the milk situation) Baby can probably do a cup just as well at this age:


Please keep us posted okay? http://www.mother-2-mother.com/cups-older.htm

 

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Registered: 03-19-2004
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 10:22pm

Thank you so much everyone. Thanks to Carol--I checked out the links you gave me and posted messages on those sites. I will also contact the LLL tomorrow.

This is all so overwhelming. I am going to try the bottle because my son still wakes up about 4 times a night(!) to eat and I can't imagine giving him a sippy cup in the middle of the night. Am I wrong?

We'll see how it goes. I'll keep you all updated...

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Fri, 10-09-2009 - 6:20pm

Stephanie -


I know you already got great advice and resources for getting milk donated. It's wonderful that you are considering this as an option for your precious baby.


I just wanted to wish you the best with your own medical treatment. My dad is currently going through chemo and a bone marrow transplant (using his own bone marrow) since he has multiple myeloma. I know it's been so hard on him and can only imagine how difficult your road will be. At the same time, I'm sure you have so much to fight for with your two little ones at home.


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Registered: 07-05-2005
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 12:44am

As banked milk can be expensive I wanted to offer up some formula suggestions.

Carnation Good Start Supreme *the regular kind w/o DHA/RHA if you can find it* is usually accepted better by most bf babies. It isn't as "stinky". You can always try it and see how he does - then you won't have to jump through so many hoops/cost and won't have to worry if he is getting enough by moving to regular milk boosted w/ solids so early. At 7.5 months I think he is too young to try and transition to whole milk and solids only - he still needs the high calorie/fat that BM or Formula offers. I know you wanted to do BM and I hope that you'll find a way to make it work out. But, I wanted to let you know the info on formula above. I've had the best luck supplimenting with Good Start and it was the only one my DS could tolerate.

I always tell people intro formula at an older age to try it warm, try it cold in a bottle, try it in a sippy hot/cold - sometimes the novelty of a different temp or source will be enough to get baby to drink it. And, he may just surprise you and drink if from the bottle regular! He'll miss mama for sure...but he'll adjust.

I'm so sorry to hear about your cancer and hope that things go very well for you.

Amy


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Registered: 12-17-2007
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 1:03am

Stephanie -

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