weaning

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Thu, 07-23-2009 - 12:58am
Hello
Its been a while since I've posted anything, I hope all is well! Robby is now a little over 9 months and i want to start weaning him at about 12 months, now I only nurse him 3-4 times a day, (that is all he asks for), but there are only two times that he actually will start screaming if he doesn't get to BF is when he first wakes up and right after his bath getting ready for bed. I don't know why he is doing this and should I be worried that the weaning process will take a longer time than i suspect? (I was thinking it might take a month or two to wean him since I have started somewhat)



Edited 7/23/2009 1:04 am ET by firstlittleone08
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In reply to: firstlittleone08
Thu, 07-23-2009 - 11:49am

Congrats on 9 months!! Good job!


We're not saying that you don't realize it, but because there is a lot of misinformation about extended nursing, we always make sure you and lurkers are aware that there are lots of benefits to nursing past 12 months: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html


Babies don't usually wean on their own until 18 months, at the earliest. It's very developmentally and emotionally appropriate for him to want to continue to nurse, which is probably why he's fighting giving up those two sessions. If he really, really reacts badly to taking away those sessions, would you consider keeping just the two a day?


If you do still decide to wean fully, it will usually take a few months or so. Start with the easiest session (what he doesn't get upset about) and go from there. http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/weaning_techniques.html


Also, keep in mind that up until 12 months, breastmilk or formula needs to be primary nutrition for baby. If you actively drop more session and go before the 4 you're at now, you'll need to introduce formula (if you haven't already). To avoid having to spend $ on formula, a lot of women won't even start the process until baby has hit that 12 month mark, then just go from there.


HTH and follow up with questions!


 

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In reply to: firstlittleone08
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 1:55pm

Thank you its been a really good 9 months!! a few struggles but got past those fine!!

To be honest i didnt want to even start weaning until he was a year old, but if typical babies dont start to wean until 18 months, i have no problem nursing for as long as he wants, i love it :)!! but he i guess kind of started himself by only wanting to BF 3-4 times versus the 6-8 he was usually getting. I'm a stay at home mom now so i can nurse him anytime he wants i am just confused as to why he stopped nursing so much.

And why he reacts the way he does when i guess i should say when he doesnt nurse right away b/c im getting ready for bed, or getting the pillows ready to nurse him, i think i may have not explained myself ......sorry. I nurse him every night before bed, as im getting ready he will start to throw, i guess, a temper tantrum and scream because he isnt getting what he wants when he wants it. I was a little concerned as to the temper tantrums.

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In reply to: firstlittleone08
Sat, 07-25-2009 - 8:11am

Glad we were able to provide some info for you :)


It's not uncommon for babies to cut back nursing around the 9 month mark. Usually, it's because we're giving too many solids. Most peds expect us to wean BY 12 months, so the info they give us facilitates that, unfortunately. Do you mind letting us know the amount/freqency of solids that he's getting? Perhaps cutting back on those will increase his nursing?


Additionally, at this age they are so darn 'busy' doing all sorts of things that they can often just forget to nurse. Instead of waiting for him to ask to nurse, you might start offering it more frequently. It might be that he wants to nurse, but he just dosen't remember to.


I think I meant to give this in my first post, but I spaced it. http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/babyselfwean.html


The temper tantrums are (unfortunately) age appropriate. If you weren't nursing, baby would likely do it for something else. It shows how valuable those session are to him, at least :) They're at such a difficult time with real feelings and emotions, but they can't really give voice to them. Frustrating, I'd imagine!


Can Dh have baby while you get ready? I've made the mistake of picking

 

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Fri, 07-31-2009 - 5:35pm

Thank for all the help it is much appreciated!

robby wakes up and nurses for about 30 mins and nibbles on 1/2 slice toast; about 2-2 1/2 hours later he nurses usually 5-10 mins to fall asleep. After his nap (about 1 1/2 - 2 hours) he eats 1/2 container stage 3 any fruits/veggies small hand full of cheerios, and 4 oz. juice and water mixture and sometimes nurses for about 20 mins, a few hours later he'll snack on cheerios, gerber vegetable puffs with 4 oz juice and water mixture. For dinner he'll eat 1/2 container stage 3 veggies/meals. After bath he'll nurse for 20 mins for bed. Most of the time he wont finish the snacks, and with everything I bounce between if im feeding him too much or not enough.

My little guys cue for feedings are when he is dressed after bath i think he's a little impatient! My Dh helps out a little but there is only so much he can do for robby when he just wants me.

I'm at home all day and my Dh works so robby will want me all the time, we're working on that and its getting better! My Dh will take him out of the room and distract him so i can get ready, and that helps a lot.

Another thing I noticed with him, I think his next set of teeth are coming in (he has bottom two and top four) and he wont take any teething toys as he has before he just wants to bite! anything and everything. any suggestions as to how i can help him with the pain? thank you

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Sun, 08-09-2009 - 6:36pm
Hello to all, I know everyone is busy so im just bumping this post to get a little more info. Thank you
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Sun, 08-09-2009 - 9:25pm
Oh, sorry! I will try to get to this tomorrow morning! If I haven't responded in a day or so, bump again, directly to my user name :)

 

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 9:14pm
just bumping post!! :)
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In reply to: firstlittleone08
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 10:05pm

SORRY!!! I'm so happy that you bumped this back to me!!


Here is info on teething...we had great luck with both girls using teething tablets.

 

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In reply to: firstlittleone08
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 2:10pm

Thanks for the teething info! Im going to try these out

After his bath is when I get ready to nurse, it only takes a minute or two but none the less, if he sees me getting ready he starts the screaming, if my DH take him out of the room or gets him dressed in the nursery then its easier to get ready and then nurse till he's asleep! This is the only time he will throw a fit to nurse (after bath)

For any other time to nurse i ask him if he wants to eat and he shows me that big smile and says num-num!! (soo cute!!) I have been nursing him more, by just picking him up, or asking him, and he is responding well, i guess i just got stuck with thinking that he would let me know if he was hungry like before. All these new things happening so fast with him, I think sometimes I cant keep up!!
Thanks again
Meaghan

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In reply to: firstlittleone08
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 3:57pm
Okay, I gotcha. I think the tantrum after the bath is a 'this, too, shall pass' sort of thing, kwim? It's tough to know what you want and have no real way of expressing it. I'd hate to be a baby ;) Or, maybe between you and DH you can figure out a way that you're ready by the time he's done with his bath?

 

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