Weaning 2 1/2 year old

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Registered: 09-09-2004
Weaning 2 1/2 year old
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:02pm

My 2 1/2 year old son is nursing on average 3 times a day. He nurses in the morning when he wakes up, before his nap and then again before bed. *I* feel ready for him to wean, but it is such a comfort to him. I feel conflicted about it, but I'm ready to start the process of weaning him and I'm not sure how to go about it. With my older daughter I did child-led don't ask don't refuse and she weaned around 19 months. Has anyone btdt? Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.

-Debbie

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Registered: 09-09-2004
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 3:20pm

Thank you both so much for your replies. You know, I think you're right, it's not so much that he's nursing, it's more the frequency of it that's getting to me. And, he's always been so good at night, but he uses the milk as a stalling technique, so that gets very frustrating for me.

My husband works late, so he's not usually home to help with bedtime. The other day I had to go out, so he did bedtime and there was no problem with me not being there and no milk before bed.

I think I'll try not to push it right now and I bet in the summer we'll be so busy that maybe that will help.

Thanks again and any more advice anyone has is always welcome!

-Debbie

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 12:47pm

Since you say your feeling conflicted about weaning I have a few bits of advice:
* Consider first just to trying to cut back his nursing sessions to just one time a day (such as the bedtime feed only) and then trying that for a little while and seeing if you still feel the desire to complete wean. From what I've seen, sometimes a nursing mom thinks the problem is BFing in and of itself when it is really just how often their child is still nursing. Thus if you can get him to accept just nursing once a day you might find that you feel less urgency to completely wean him at that time.
* If he is indicates that he is still very attached to his current three nursing session then you will have to decided just how strongly you feel about completely weaning him at this time. You may be able to wait a few months and find that he is more ready to completely wean then. Trying to force wean a child who is not ready at all can be very emotionally taxing from what I've heard so only do it your absolutely certain you can't stand nursing another moment.
* Another thing to consider is that it's normal for many extended nursing moms to go through periods where they want to wean followed by periods where they are OK with continuing. So take weaning a bit slower if you can and see how you a little ways down the road.

You can find some basic techniques for weaning here: http://kellymom.com/bf/weaning/weaning_techniques.html

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 7:07pm

The only feeding that I led the weaning on with my DS was the wake up feeding. I figured it would be the easiest as the comfort portion of the nursing might make it harder for him to fall asleep if we forced those. If it helps any, we did it over vacation and for that week my MIL would go get him when he woke up instead of me. DS did absolutely fine with no complaints at all. He didn't look for me to nurse him when I got up a bit later, probably because she'd already fed him breakfast. When we got home, he was happy to go along with the program we'd started on vacation and never even acted like he wanted to nurse in the morning after that.

It probably took another 3 or 4 months before he decided he was done with the pre-sleep nursings.

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