How do you stop feeling bad about wanting to quit?

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Registered: 06-11-2012
How do you stop feeling bad about wanting to quit?
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Sun, 08-12-2012 - 6:51pm

Today, my baby girl is officially 15 weeks old. I've been pumping since week 2 and have survived an international trip with a handpump. But, I feel like quitting. There's so many things I want to do - start losing the baby weight, wear wire bras, enjoy a night out with friends and family without having to worry about pumping. Plus, I'm starting work tomorrow and am thinking about quitting because I want my old life back!!

Due to travelling and major jetlag, I've gone down to 3 pumps a day, with a total of 24-25 oz. I used to pump 4 times a day at 28-32 oz. I have about 600oz in the freezer .

My question is: how do you stop feeling bad about wanting to quit?? Or should I preservere?? 

need some wisdom

pauline

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Hi there,

First of all, kudos to you for surviving a trip with a hand pump--that's dedication!

I think feeling guilty is part of being a mom for most of us. If you weren't feeling guilty about this, there would be something else. So it's just a fact of life, and you just have to decide not to be too hard on yourself.

I would advise you (take it or leave it) not to quit before going back to work. Then you can at least give pumping and working a shot. If it doesn't work out for you and you still would like to stop (not quit), then stop. You will know that you tried.

I am a retired pumper now (daughter is 2, new baby on the way in a few weeks) but I still remember having all the feelings you do about wanting to be normal. I will say that I thought it would be easier to lose that last five pounds after quitting pumping, but I found it was the opposite--pumping allowed me to eat a crazy amount and stay at a reasonable weight (about 5 pounds up from pre baby). I gained some back after I stopped pumping--still felt so hungry, but no bonus calorie burn. Bummer.

You're lucky to be able to do just 3 pumps a day and get such a good amount--good for you! So in a nutshell, I'd say give pumping and working a shot and if it's not for you, it's not for you. Good luck--you're doing great!

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Registered: 10-14-2010
I should also add that should you decide to stop, you have still done a fantastic thing for your baby and you should be proud of making it this far!

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Registered: 05-16-2012

Losing baby weight usually much easier during periods when you are producing milk. A lot of my breastfeeding friends actually started to gain weight after weaning babies.

Have no idea what to do about feeling bad though. I hate pumping and tired of it, but I can`t stop feeling bad about wanting to just quit pumping.
But you may think about to keep at least 1-2 pumps a day (given that you have good supply with so little pumps)  if baby goes to child care, because it is normally make significant difference in amount of illnesses that baby has, and baby who is sick regularly not going to help you to do well at work.

 

 

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Registered: 06-11-2012

Thank you for your encouragement. I will try and go as far as my milk supply allow me to. I guess I hit the 4th month slump :smileyhappy:

It didn't help that I was criticized for being too fat and using breastfeeding as an excuse :smileysad: IT's been a tough pregnancy and first 3 months. I'm really glad to find people who understand the crap we have to go through....

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Registered: 05-16-2012
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 9:27pm

Actually normal time frame to recovery after delivery is between 6 to 8 months.15 weeks is definetely too early to listen any comments about not losing yet some after pregnancy fat.

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Registered: 10-14-2010
I definitely agree with the previous poster--it takes a while for those pounds to melt off! And who criticizes someone who just had a baby--geez. All but the last five pounds came off for me by pumping (and I ate a TON), but it did take several months, not just 15 weeks. Hang in there--you'll get your body back!

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