Am I the ONLY ONE??

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Am I the ONLY ONE??
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Fri, 08-17-2012 - 1:48pm

Hello pumping mommas!! Just wanted to say before I got started that you all rock!! What we are doing for our little ones is not easy and takes a lot of effort!! So GO us for finding a way to get our babies the best milk in the world. :smileyhappy: So here is the deal. I have two little ones, my oldest just turned 2 and my youngest is 5 months. With my first I tried to BF but she would not latch and had reflux so I pumped for 3 weeks and then the doctor took her off BM and put her on prevacid and Alimentum beasuse of the servility of the reflux. Now we are on baby number 2 who also had reflux. Long story short I stuck up for baby and did not let the doctor take away BM this time. We tried BM and prevacid and it worked like a charm. I would be lying if I said I didnt feel guilty for letting the doctor take my first one off BM but it was my first child and I did what the doctor recommended. Not with this one!! I was going to try to keep feeding breastmilk as long as possible. Baby #2 is doing great and we have weaned off Prevacid!! YAY :smileyhappy: So here is the deal. I EXCLUSIVLEY PUMP BM.My husband HATES ME PUMPING!! WHY?? I CAN'T GET A REASON OUT OF HIM. HE DESPISES IT. HE ALWAYS IS ASKING ME WHEN AM I GOING TO QUIT. AND REMINDING ME THAT OUR FIRST ONE WAS ON FORMULA AND IS DOING GREAT. I DONT UNDERSTAND THIS IS THE BEST THING FOR OUR CHILD. WHY DOES IT GET ON HIS NERVES SO MUCH?? I ONLY PUMP 4 TIMES A  DAY. HE IS ONLY AROUND ME ONE (TIME BEFORE BED) PUMPING THE ENTIRE DAY. THIS IS KILLING ME. HE IS THE ONE WHO ASKED ME TO PUMP FOR ATLEAST 2 WEEKS WHEN BABY #2 WAS BORN. PLEASE TELL ME I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHOSE HUSBAND IS TRYING TO GET THEM TO QUIT PUMPING. HE TOLD ME THAT HE WOULD NOT BE LIKE THIS IF I WAS BREASTFEEDING. UGHH SO FRUSTRATING!!! I CANT HELP IT THAT OUR BABY CAN NOT BREASTFEED. I KNOW YOU ALL UNDERSTAND IF WE COULD GET THEM TO BR WE WOULD IT WOULD TAKE ALOT OF THE EXTRA WORK AWAY :-/

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 11:15pm

You are not the only one. Mine didn't actually tell me to stop pumping, but he always looked bothered when I was pumping, then he would complain I would be in the computer (while pumping only) and not spending time with him. Ugh! he even complained about me using too much dish soap (that I used to wash the pump parts and bottles). I tried to reduce pumps to try and spend more time with him but took a hit on my supply, so I had to go back up. Then he would say that babies in his family were all formula fed, and that even "black babies are not breastfed", bla bla bla. (Our baby is mixed). We even tried to give the baby formula and he threw it all up and then refused it afterwards, so why would I deny BM to my baby when even the baby prefers it, and I am capable of providing it. I would just tell him that this is your choice, and this is the best for you and the baby, and he needs to stop it. Im my case, I felt self reward when I could provide milk for my baby, so why would anyone would tell me to stop doing something that made me happy doing?. I only stopped pumping because I was able to get the baby to the breast. He is 4 months and in that stage where he sucks on everything that goes into his mouth, so that is why he figured out how to breastfeed. I still pump once a day in the mornings while DH is at work, and I use that milk when we go out because I still don't feel very comfortable breastfeeding in public. Don't give up, and don't let anyone else tell you what to do, when you know you are doing the best for you (because bf also has benefits to the mother) and your baby.

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Registered: 06-22-2008
Sun, 08-19-2012 - 7:01am
I think it may just intimidate them. My husband is the same way about being weird when I pump, although he has never asked me to quit, he's actually been very supportive of my choice to start pumping again. He either takes it as a time to play video games (if both babies are sleeping) or we just watch tv together while i pump so we are spending time together still.
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Registered: 05-16-2012
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 12:03am

It is a wild guess, but if he don`t want to talk about why he hates pumping then sex might be the reason. It might be seeing you pumping, seeing nipples after pumpign (if you have some kind of bluishness afterwards,eg), or even smell of breast milk.
My husband, for eg, hated how I smelt all the time while I was taking motherlove. He didnot ask me to quit only because of heavy cultural conditioning :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 04-23-2012
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 2:17pm

LOL, you are NOT the only one.  Hubby and I had very loud fights over how much he resented my pumping since it took so much time and whatnot.  I stuck with it and after the first 12 weeks I had a routine down and he was back at work so he didn't care anymore.  After breast milk helped us avoid baby getting big brother's 2 colds and fevers he jumped on board.